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Old 05-15-2018, 08:17 AM
 
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We get pressured quite often to attend our friend's kids graduations - both high school and college. Back when I graduated, it was normally just family who attended these boring things. Now parents will invite everyone they know and expect an entourage of all their friends to show up at their son or daughter's commencement ceremony. If you're one of these parents just know that lots of people hate these things and resent being asked to attend if it's not their own kid, grandkids brother or sister. The ceremonies are of little interest to anyone else (sorry if that hurts anyone's feelings). No wonder the toddler acted up and had a tantrum.
The mother should have removed the child, it's not the other attendees problem that her child was bored.
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Old 05-16-2018, 05:49 PM
 
Location: USA
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Why in God's name do we feel compelled to drag kids everywhere we go? They have limits, and so do we. Plan accordingly, people. Know the limitations, and also be aware that, in certain circumstances and venues, their presence is not appropriate. BTW, I've got a couple of my own, so don't grab your pitchforks & torches...
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Old 05-16-2018, 06:50 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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Why in God's name do we feel compelled to drag kids everywhere we go? They have limits, and so do we. Plan accordingly, people. Know the limitations, and also be aware that, in certain circumstances and venues, their presence is not appropriate. BTW, I've got a couple of my own, so don't grab your pitchforks & torches...
Did you actually read the thread?

I don't think anyone suggested that children should be dragged everywhere. I don't recall any responses that indicated the parent was doing the right thing by staying. Some posters were sympathetic to the situation the mother may have been in but almost everyone agreed that even if she couldn't help but have the baby with her, she should have stepped away once the baby became noisy.
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Old 05-17-2018, 03:13 PM
 
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Exactly. A young child is just not physically able to sit still in a situation like that for so long, nor cognitively able to understand why he has to. It's sad when adults set kids up for failure and make others around them suffer as well.
No kidding. I didn't even like being at my own awards ceremonies.

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Old 05-17-2018, 05:11 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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It blows mightily, but yes, we do as parents have to miss some events rather than have our kids there, screaming.

I had to watch my father in law's wedding from someone's phone later, and I had to try to listen through a cracked window at the side of the house to what loved ones said at my sister in law's memorial, indoors with my young kids.

I did also miss a graduation but as others have already mentioned, that wasn't as much of a tragedy.
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Old 05-18-2018, 12:24 PM
 
Location: USA
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Hi, Macie...I sure did read the post. Got the gist of it. Just chiming in. Thanks for checking. Have a good weekend!
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Old 05-18-2018, 01:10 PM
 
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I don't blame you, the parent was very rude for not taking the child out, it wasn't the child's fault. I'm surprised the ushers didn't excort her out.
These days you can't, the mombies and the THINK OF THE BABBIES-ERS will probably chuck an even bigger tantrum, or sue. The days of teaching kids to behave well in public are by and large over.
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Old 05-18-2018, 01:11 PM
 
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Maybe you all should stop judging someone that you don't know.

Maybe that woman wanted to see the first person in her family graduate.

Maybe that child had some medical condition.

We don't know so it's not our place to judge.
We know all we need to know - that no matter the excuse this person is inconsiderate and rude to others. "medical condition" pfffft.
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Old 05-18-2018, 02:03 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia/South Jersey area
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Wow, you all are judgemental. Anyone stop to think that maybe this mom had an older child or stepchild graduating, or husband, even sibling, wasn't able to get a sitter but did not want to miss such an important occasion? I get some people don't think the ceremonies are a big deal, but for others they are, who knows what kind of an achievement it was for them. Imagine a young adult looking to see their mom there and not seeing her, they wouldn't even know she left because of the baby, they would just be disappointed. My husband got his PhD when our son was 18 months, and we went and sat through the ceremony until he walked on the stage, keeping DS as quiet as I could, I packed snacks and books and let him play with my phone, luckily he made it through but even if he screamed, I think I would try to maybe leave but come back to make sure I don't miss it. People don't usually enjoy sitting in a crowd with a screaming toddler. If she did it she probably had a good reason.
So her needs means everyone else had to suffer?? And you wonder why people dislike being near a mom withan infant.

Sorry having a baby means you miss stuff. Do you know how many meals, movies, weddings and parties my guy and i missed??? Hell I has to leave Disney world because one of my kids would not behave. Had that been my sons graduation I would have been pissed. So all those parents missed their kids name because of one princess mom. Nice
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Old 05-18-2018, 02:22 PM
 
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Ive got my flame suit on. I'm went to college graduation today. Yes I get it, motherhood is tough but seriously a mom is sitting there with a kid that screamed for 2 hours and refused to take him out. Screamed through the graduate names being presented, through guest speakers, every thing.

No words because I'm looking for the biggest bottle of tylenol I can find for my massive headache.
I have 4 children (adults now) and I agree, that was inexcusable. It was selfish and rude with no regard whatsoever for others. She should have been escorted out by ushers or security. Sometimes kids are just kids and they cannot be expected to act like short adults. My kids were always pretty good but when I did have a baby or toddler screaming in a public place, even the grocery store, I got them out as soon as possible. I've eaten many a restaurant meal in the car with a baby or toddler while the other kids stayed in the restaurant and enjoyed their meal - one of us always took the distracting kid out.
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