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Old 05-16-2018, 01:07 PM
 
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What sort of job has you doing all of this travelling? Four months ago, you were a hospital nurse. Five months ago, you were a director seeking a promotion and three months ago you were again a director, newly hired and upset that people were treating you like, in your words, a "dumbass."
Good catch- I saw that in an earlier post.

Maybe the OP hasn't completely described the job particulars(?)
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Old 05-16-2018, 02:02 PM
 
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New parent here, this is more of a vent post

I've never been one to struggle with the feeling of guilt before. Sure I have a lot of regrets in life, but nothing that keeps me up so much and burns me inside everyday.
Out of an avg month of 30 days, I travel for work approx 20/30 days. I am away from my child and I miss him so much. I feel guilt for 1. Not being there with him, taking care of him, being there first thing and last thing and 2. Guilt for not helping my wife. She is so strong to be able to take care of our son solo and tolerate him. I know I can't do it myself.

Again, just a vent post. As a new parent, this is a feeling I have never experienced before and it just hurts
Get a different job and be a parent to your child.

You can't possibly be feeling THAT bad if you aren't willing to make lifestyle changes. Why you had a kid when you are gone for months at a time just mystifies me.
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Old 05-16-2018, 02:34 PM
 
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New parent here, this is more of a vent post

I've never been one to struggle with the feeling of guilt before. Sure I have a lot of regrets in life, but nothing that keeps me up so much and burns me inside everyday.
Out of an avg month of 30 days, I travel for work approx 20/30 days. I am away from my child and I miss him so much. I feel guilt for 1. Not being there with him, taking care of him, being there first thing and last thing and 2. Guilt for not helping my wife. She is so strong to be able to take care of our son solo and tolerate him. I know I can't do it myself.

Again, just a vent post. As a new parent, this is a feeling I have never experienced before and it just hurts
It may be helpful to start a routine even when you are on road trips of skyping in the evenings with your child. It is a blessing that you realize this as a young parent, and with today's technologies you may be able to be a presence even when you are away.

Make everyday count. Kids thrive on routines, so get creative and establish one.

Also, remember to let your wife know how much you appreciate her because it would be impossible to work away from home without a supportive co-parent.

Best to you and your family!
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