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Old 06-04-2018, 07:57 AM
 
Location: Fairfield, CT
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This can't be normal can it? Has anyone seen a situation like this?

I just found out today that my brother and his wife are pregnant with their second kid...they just hit the 12 week mark and the baby will be due early December. They have another kid who is 3. My wife and I have a son that is 15 months and are also expecting a second baby around early December.

My wife hates my brother's wife and thinks my parents favor her/them much more over us....that's probably because my niece gets to see my parents all the time and with my kid, my wife puts moratoriums on when my parents can visit our son..like every 2 weeks or so. To add insult to injury, my wife also dislikes my niece because she came from my sister in law.

Needless to say my wife is not only pissed they are having a second kid at all, but also that he/she will be born around the same time as our second one. She had a cute idea to announce to my family on father's day, but now she just wants me to text them or call them...not even tell them in person ! (They live 15 minutes away). She thinks now that our second kid will be irrelevant beause my brother's second kid will be the hot topic of the year from my parents' perspective.

So I ask - this isn't normal is it? Has anyone else had any family drama where kids from the same general family are born around the week? I try to tell her "just focus on our two kids", but I have the feeling I'm going to be the target of her envy and disappointment for a long time...as if I can control when other people decide to have babies.
That type of thinking is nuts.
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Old 06-04-2018, 09:17 AM
 
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Niece is born: GF couldn't care less
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Old 06-04-2018, 09:44 AM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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Maybe the inlaws favor the brother because your wife is not a nice person.
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Old 06-04-2018, 09:46 AM
 
Location: East Cobb, GA
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Ah. Another case of the jealous spouse.

Hopefully she can get over it. I don’t know what kind of solution or compromise is possible. Women get pregnant and don’t consult every single family member first.
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Old 06-04-2018, 09:52 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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Ah. Another case of the jealous spouse.
And also "I'm just glad to have a wife" type of guy who gladly lets everybody run over them.
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Old 06-04-2018, 10:05 AM
 
Location: IN
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And also "I'm just glad to have a wife" type of guy who gladly lets everybody run over them.
OMG I love this Henpecked for sure.
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Old 06-04-2018, 10:42 AM
 
Location: East Coast
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Originally Posted by Namogel View Post
This can't be normal can it? Has anyone seen a situation like this?

I just found out today that my brother and his wife are pregnant with their second kid...they just hit the 12 week mark and the baby will be due early December. They have another kid who is 3. My wife and I have a son that is 15 months and are also expecting a second baby around early December.

My wife hates my brother's wife and thinks my parents favor her/them much more over us....that's probably because my niece gets to see my parents all the time and with my kid, my wife puts moratoriums on when my parents can visit our son..like every 2 weeks or so. To add insult to injury, my wife also dislikes my niece because she came from my sister in law.

Needless to say my wife is not only pissed they are having a second kid at all, but also that he/she will be born around the same time as our second one. She had a cute idea to announce to my family on father's day, but now she just wants me to text them or call them...not even tell them in person ! (They live 15 minutes away). She thinks now that our second kid will be irrelevant beause my brother's second kid will be the hot topic of the year from my parents' perspective.

So I ask - this isn't normal is it? Has anyone else had any family drama where kids from the same general family are born around the week? I try to tell her "just focus on our two kids", but I have the feeling I'm going to be the target of her envy and disappointment for a long time...as if I can control when other people decide to have babies.
I laughed at this post, especially at the bolded part. Needless to say? Huh? I think important to say because everything about this is utterly INSANE.

You know this is not normal. Not sure why you're even asking here. I thought that maybe this was a situation like that of someone I know where the grandparents favor other grandchildren in the family, but that ended with the phrase "my wife puts moratoriums..." None of the subsequent descriptions are that of a mentally healthy person.


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Ah, and this confirms it! OP, clearly you knew what you were in for going in. I don't know why you'd be the least bit surprised.
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Old 06-04-2018, 10:53 AM
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Location: Thousand Oaks, CA
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Nothing my wife said during pregnancy was normal. But I'm concerned that this issue appeared before pregnancy. Your parents probably don't like her OP, and neither would I if I were them.
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Old 06-04-2018, 11:14 AM
 
Location: East Coast
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Ah, jeezus louizus...
I don't know why I went down this rabbit hole, but after seeing the above link, I saw that in that link there was a reference to an earlier post:
Mom trying to cause conflict between GF and I.

OP: Obviously your entire family has issues. Pick your wife or your family. There is drama caused by both sides. Accept they are not getting along, and concentrate on your wife and your kids. You've known the deal for years now.
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Old 06-04-2018, 12:13 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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These kinds of things happen. I wouldn't read much into it.
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