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People do grow up hearing odd things. Some years ago, my friend's teenage daughter ran away. She was easy to find--she went to NYC (we were in NJ) to the friend's sister's house. It was a tough time for the kid--Mom had married someone and had a new kid where for the first 12 years it was just her and her mother.
But I asked my friend what had come before the daughter left, and she said, "We were having an argument and I told her, 'I wish you were dead'. You know, like a mother always says to her kid."
Um, no, my mother never said, 'I wish you were dead' and no way would I ever say that to my kid. To her, that was just something she had heard from her mother and was repeating to her daughter, but I don't think that's really a common thing for a mother to say to her daughter.
No. I never told any of my children they were spoiled, because they weren't. I would neve in a million years say "I wish you were dead, or that you were never born".
I made it a point pretty young to never say anything when in any confrontation that I would have to say "I'm sorry, I didn't mean that."
Once a child or anyone is cut down with hate words it tends to cling to them, no matter how sorry the sayer says they are.
For myself it is mostly easy to forgive but darn near impossible to forget. Good reason for me to watch what I say in anger to anyone.
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