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I think it's a great idea. I think it would work for most of the married couples with kids that I know. However, it would not have worked for my parents. My father was not and never has been a considerate person and my mother has a hair-trigger temper. They should have divorced when I was much younger (they waited until I was 21).
Honestly, I'm thinking this is a good question to talk over with someone before you marry. If they tell you they could never do something like that, maybe it's best not to marry them. I mean, situations change, but if that's their attitude going in, it might be good to peel out while their are no strings.
I can't see it working for me. If a man carried 50 % of the work load and was considerate, he probably wouldn't be divorced. So I can see the divorced mister still expecting his laundry to be done, his dinner to be cooked, and his house to be cleaned.
No advantage to the wife. You get divorced to get rid of the spouse and his associated extra work and disagreeable temper. . The divorced husband no longer has to share his paycheck and he can bed other women, but he still has his free housekeeper and child tender.
If people were easy to get along with, they would very likely still be married.
The ex wife wouldn't be doing that stuff...cooking for him, etc.. They wouldn't be living in the same house at the same time so how could she?
This could work if you had a huge house, where you each could individually lock your bedrooms so the other person wouldn't be infringing on your privacy - and if you were both super mature, got along swimmingly, and were both sane - but then, if that was the case, you probably would not have gotten divorced.
You know, there is a reason people get divorced, and its not because they get along so well with each other. If you get along well enough to make something like this work, why bother with a divorce at all?
Overall? How? They'd need 3 residences instead of two. I guess you could argue that the two the parents have could be really small single apartments or something, but that would come down to what they want to live in and their income, which is true for all housing decisions.
^^ I think the point is for them to share a single small residence during the time that they're doing this. They would only need an apartment or whatever suitable for one person, because the kids wouldn't be going there. The current home plus a small apartment is probably going to be cheaper than two homes that can each accommodate the children.
^^ I think the point is for them to share a single small residence during the time that they're doing this. They would only need an apartment or whatever suitable for one person, because the kids wouldn't be going there. The current home plus a small apartment is probably going to be cheaper than two homes that can each accommodate the children.
This! Just because two people can make this arrangement work amicably does not mean they should stay married either. And not all divorces happen because one person is abusive, an idiot, not pulling their weight etc...people grow and change and grow apart.
I actually know two divorced couples who still live together and just have separate bedrooms in the house. They do this for the kids so it’s not a big adjustment but it makes dating tricky from what they’ve said. One couple has been doing this for 6 years now and say it’s the best decision they ever made.
Now I couldn’t do it but I also wouldn’t be shuffling my child back and forth. I’d have the setup be whatever was the most stable and beneficial for him even if it meant he spent most of his time with dad.
^^ I think the point is for them to share a single small residence during the time that they're doing this. They would only need an apartment or whatever suitable for one person, because the kids wouldn't be going there. The current home plus a small apartment is probably going to be cheaper than two homes that can each accommodate the children.
These sum up my opinion nicely. My parents divorced, I'm divorced, one sister is divorced, and various other people I know are divorced. None of the children involved were traumatized by the process.
Perhaps not traumatized, but you and your sibling may have been more likely to be in a divorce yourselves because of what you experienced.
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