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Old 09-23-2018, 06:53 PM
 
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If you give a gift such as concert tickets, to a couple, are you also expected to pay for their babysitter so they can attend the concert? This situation recently came up with some younger friends and I am curious about what other people think.

A college student that I know splurged to give her older brother and his wife (who both have full time jobs) two tickets to a concert that he wanted to attended. Normally she would give a small gift, or a home made gift, to her brother for his birthday but spent at least four times what she would normally spent on his gift to buy two concert tickets. And, while he was (mostly) appreciative of the gift, he informed her that "it was not polite to buy tickets for a night out unless you also include enough money to pay for a babysitter."

Frankly, I had never heard of an etiquette rule like that. So, was she in the wrong or was he just making that up or is this something new or what?

Thank you for any input.

Oops, maybe this should be in Non-romantic relationships instead, but I was wondering what people who needed to pay for baby sitters (parents) thought about this issue.
LOL!!! In their dreams!!!
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Old 09-24-2018, 06:15 AM
 
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Absolutely NOT!

If it was stated in the card (babysitting services included) along with the tickets, then yes.
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Old 09-24-2018, 06:54 AM
 
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If you give a gift such as concert tickets, to a couple, are you also expected to pay for their babysitter so they can attend the concert? This situation recently came up with some younger friends and I am curious about what other people think.

A college student that I know splurged to give her older brother and his wife (who both have full time jobs) two tickets to a concert that he wanted to attended. Normally she would give a small gift, or a home made gift, to her brother for his birthday but spent at least four times what she would normally spent on his gift to buy two concert tickets. And, while he was (mostly) appreciative of the gift, he informed her that "it was not polite to buy tickets for a night out unless you also include enough money to pay for a babysitter."

Frankly, I had never heard of an etiquette rule like that. So, was she in the wrong or was he just making that up or is this something new or what?

Thank you for any input.

Oops, maybe this should be in Non-romantic relationships instead, but I was wondering what people who needed to pay for baby sitters (parents) thought about this issue.
Nope. The brother is just a jerk.
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Old 09-24-2018, 07:33 AM
 
Location: Central, NJ
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I think that's an outrageous answer. But we didn't have a sitter when my son was younger and no one to trade off babysitting with. We probably couldn't have used them either. But that's not the problem of the gift giver!

My siblings had children years before I did and if I gave them a gift like this, part of the gift would have been me watching the kids for them.
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Old 09-24-2018, 08:16 AM
 
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That's like giving someone a car and they complaining that it would be rude to give them a car without paying for the gas.
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Old 09-24-2018, 08:52 AM
 
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No.


Should you be expected to pay for tolls, parking, and dinner as well?
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Old 09-24-2018, 12:14 PM
 
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Hell NO!

He wouldn't have to worry about not getting money for a babysitter again because I would never give him tickets to anything again. But then, I would have laughed at him when he said it to begin with and probably popped off some remark back to him and we would be clear on the situation.
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Old 09-24-2018, 12:19 PM
 
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My siblings had children years before I did and if I gave them a gift like this, part of the gift would have been me watching the kids for them.
Childless here. I do the same for family and friends when gifting something that is a night out. I enjoy spending time with the kids and it gives their parent(s) an opportunity to get out.

On the other side of that, it seems many people think Iím always available to babysit, especially on short notice since Iím childless.
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Old 09-24-2018, 12:55 PM
 
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People will always complain about something. Once I had a person get upset that I accepted $10 gas money...that she offered me.
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Old 09-24-2018, 01:50 PM
 
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On first read, I agreed with everyone else...he was being a jerk. But then I got to thinking about it...so I'll play devil's advocate.


What if this couple just really don't have money for a babysitter, parking, etc.? I STILL think it was rude to say what he said, but is it/was it thoughtless on the sister's part, to not realize this is a poor couple who can't afford to go out like that?


For example...we have a friend who has offered the use of her time share in Hawaii to us. That's great...but we'd still have to pay for our airline tickets to Hawaii...and whatever incidentals, meals, etc.


Now, this friend didn't GIFT us the time share...she's just offered it to us, if we decide to ever go. But what if she HAD gifted us with the timeshare...but we couldn't use it because of all the other expenses associated with the trip?






See where I'm going with this? Am I being clear? lol
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