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Old 09-27-2018, 04:07 PM
 
Location: Nashville TN
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My 2nd son couldn't stay dry at night until he was in kindergarten and then just like that, almost overnight, he stopped wetting the bed. I had tried everything! His pediatrician said some kid's bladders just take longer to develop and he was an extremely heavy sleeper - to the point I could take him to the bathroom, hold him under his arms, and tell him to pee and he'd pee while sound asleep and dead weight! After he was about 3, and obviously feeling awful about it, I just put him in his "nighttime underwear" and stopped worrying about (on the pedi's advice). I had a friend whose son was almost 10. They had tried everything, including spanking and humiliating him (as if he wasn't humiliated enough). He also slept like the dead. Then around 10, he just started staying dry. I think for some kids, they simply cannot physically hold it in all night and if they are heavy sleepers, they aren't aware of the signs. You just have to wait for their bladders to mature.
I wish it was something as simple as her being a heavy sleeper that would attribute to her still having this problem but she is light sleeper and just opening her door and hearing the creaking will usually wake her up. When I was able to walk (carry) her to the bathroom, she would claim that she didn't have to go and sometimes refused to even try. I had to make her sit and at least try.

For the longest time, I too would simply have her wear a pull up to bed and hope it was dry in morning just to deal with it hoping she would outgrow it. As time went on, it was clear that she wasn't outgrowing or even motivated to want to stop. It was at that point where I began trying different things. none of which have worked. Yes, there are some nights where she does stay dry but those are rare. It it bothered her then I would push the issue even harder and did everything I could to help her stop. She just wont put forth the effort to want to stop. Whatever I try, she always has an excuse to not want to try it like ignoring the alarm or refusing to go when I wake her. She will even refuse to try to go before bed knowing what will happen if she doesn't.

I am sorry to hear about your friend and her son. I could never treat her like he was treated. That's SOO wrong in my opinion. I am glad to hear that he finally started to stay dry on his own. I am afraid to ask how mom humiliated him. I am hoping it was't "abusive".

Thanks,
Laura
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Old 09-27-2018, 04:11 PM
 
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First, limiting liquids is not the answer.
I was a late bloomer so to speak. Kidney dialysis from 4 til 7. Emotional stress.
What deterred the bed wetting was months of non humiliation by family. My grandmother simply kept my bedding dry. My anxiety from doctors exams and months of sensing the dismay really did play a part. I rarely encourage medication in young children...yet they do have a med that helps discipline the kidneys.
I don't know your child or where they are in development stage...as a parent you do have a sense. I can only say that as the kid...it's stressing when not developing this technique aptly.
I am not a fan of putting a child on medication for a problem that I don't know what is causing it. In this case, I don't think medication would resolve it. I am sorry you went through that as a child, that had to be tough on you.

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Laura
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Old 09-27-2018, 04:18 PM
 
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How about when she wets the bed, tell her she can sleep on the floor, and she's not to wake you up anymore.


I'm trying to think of ways that minimize what YOU have to go through, and maximize the uncomfortableness she would have to go through.


For example...you would tell her that from now on, she is not to wake you up when she wets the bed. If she doesn't want to sleep in her own wet bed, than she can sleep on the floor next to her bed. She can make a pallet if she wants to...whatever. But she has to leave you alone and let you sleep.


If she DOES end up waking you up...you punish her for THAT. Take a favorite toy away, or tell her she has to play inside that day...whatever gets her where it hurts...so to speak.


Regarding having to do so much wash...maybe it'd be worth it to invest in a few more sheets (so you don't have to do laundry quite as often) and maybe get a diaper pail to put the wet sheets/blankets etc., into?
I am not sure if I could go that far as to making her sleep on the floor. She doesn't wake me up to begin with as it is. When I do take things away its for her refusing to go to the bathroom before bed. All I ask her to do is try, that's all. If she refuses to even try, that's when she will lost a privilage or a toy/game. Her sheets usually go into the washer first thing but it might be a good idea to have something in place like a diaper pail if that isn't an option. The times when the washer is going, I will put the sheets in the tub until its free. It would of been nice to have something to put the pull ups into in the morning because they reeked of urine big time.

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Laura
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Old 09-27-2018, 04:24 PM
 
Location: Nashville TN
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Good advice.



I would try the pull ups & diaper doublers or the goodnites (perhaps tape them to make them smaller).

I'm not sure if a fan, or sound machine, would help as wouldn't that cause her to sleep more soundly?

Why don't you try setting two alarms (one for her and one for you) for three hours (or whatever time seems the best) after her bedtime and get up and remind her to empty her bladder? I have heard that works very well for some children. Heck, I know plenty of adults who need to wake up in the middle of the night to urinate.


Good luck.
I am going to look around for the diaper doublers thanks. I never thought of trying to tape them to make them smaller. It might help in the waste but the goodnites basically drooped on her and she would simply leak right out of them. Given her size, even the smallest goodnites are a bit too big on her.
I still do wake her up at night and try to catch her before she goes in the bed. I set the alarm for myself. She will ignore hers.

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Laura
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Old 09-27-2018, 04:25 PM
 
Location: Nashville TN
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My cousins wet the bed until they were nearly in middle school. They turned out just fine. I'm sure she will outgrow this.
Thanks, I hope it wont take long before she stops.

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Laura
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Old 09-27-2018, 04:28 PM
 
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I am going to look around for the diaper doublers thanks. I never thought of trying to tape them to make them smaller. It might help in the waste but the goodnites basically drooped on her and she would simply leak right out of them. Given her size, even the smallest goodnites are a bit too big on her.
I still do wake her up at night and try to catch her before she goes in the bed. I set the alarm for myself. She will ignore hers.

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Laura
Yuck. That sounds like a pain. They have these highly absorbent blankets that are not bed sized. Maybe you could throw one down under her like a medical pad? Pitch it in the wash in the am?
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Old 09-27-2018, 04:31 PM
 
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Or...how about just using the mattress protector/pad...and no sheets? I'd still have whatever makes her comfortable in her bed...pillow and blankets...but while going through this phase...just...not put a sheet on the bed?
Thankfully, I have the mattress covered and protected (she is on her 3rd one right now and they are not cheap). For a short time I was using the bed pads from goodnites but the cost was killing me so I resorted to using puppy pads that my friend would give me. She used to get them free from someone somehow. It would be nice to wake up in the morning and not to wash her bedding first thing or have a child mad at me for having her help me with the sheets. She is not a morning person at all as it is.

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Laura
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Old 09-27-2018, 04:37 PM
 
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Have you tried the incontinence bed protector pads that are frequently used for seniors? You put it over the bottom sheet. They are large, and absorb a lot, and wash well. She could change it herself and not have to change all the sheets.

It isn't healthy to limit daily fluid intake, but I would encourage her to drink a lot up until dinner time (6?) and then basically no more fluids. Make sure she voids entirely before tucking in. If her bladder isn't full until she has gone through a whole sleep cycle (3-4 hrs), she will probably wake up more easily.

http://www.amazon.com/Washable-Water...ntinence-Mattr...
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Old 09-27-2018, 04:38 PM
 
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Does she? Not criticizing. But could you have unwittingly gotten the two of you into a subconscious power struggle? You mention pull ups and say they don't work. What does not work about them?
Your right about the power struggle. For the longest time, I would just hope it would stop and not have an issue with it and just continue to buy pull ups. With the pull ups, they just don't hold up all night and pretty much leak every night. I even tried moving up to the ones for older kids (the goodnites) thinking maybe I need to go up a size even though the pull ups still fit her. But even the smallest size still still a bit too big for her. She is average size height wise but she is a bean pole when it comes to weight. It's hard enough finding clothes to fit her as it is and I HATE having to go back to school clothes shopping for her because I typically have to go to multiple places to find things in her size.

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Laura
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Old 09-27-2018, 04:57 PM
 
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Take her to a specialist. Our local children's hospital has a bed wetting clinic. My son was wet every single night until we finally went when he was about 7, close to 8. They had us buy a sensor that attaches to the underwear. As soon as it gets wet, an alarm wakes him up and he goes to the bathroom. You will be up with her for several nights. Something about waking up when they should be sleeping causes an enzyme to kick in, and they stop having to go over night. I think it took less than a week, and he's only ever been wet at night maybe once since then (7 years).
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