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Old 09-28-2018, 02:50 PM
 
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Have your tried rewards? The next time she asks or begs you for something tell her she can have it if she doesn't wet the bed for X nights. Also the sleepovers are coming. She can't go till she stops wetting the bed!
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Old 09-28-2018, 02:53 PM
 
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Good use of terminology. I would also, stay in in bathroom, and maybe run water until you hear her urinating the toilet.
Good suggestion! I recall my mom having to use a warm bowl of water ...she'd run water and ask me to soothe my hands in the warm water. True fact...when our body temperature rises...we tend to 'release our fluids. The 'hearing' of running water and the warmth of water still has me knocking on the powder room door. Ding dong nature calling.
And yes the medication does work even for little ones..it's not open to risk either. The human body sometimes needs a bit of guidance ....unsure where this myth that once the person dissipates off it that the old habit returns....
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Old 09-28-2018, 04:44 PM
 
Location: Surfside Beach, SC
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Have your tried rewards? The next time she asks or begs you for something tell her she can have it if she doesn't wet the bed for X nights. Also the sleepovers are coming. She can't go till she stops wetting the bed!
This child is not bed wetting on purpose!
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Old 09-28-2018, 10:49 PM
 
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I am desperately seeking advice regarding my daughters night time issue. She is 7 (8 in Nov) and she still wets the bed every single night no matter what I try or don't try. I have taken her to her pedi multiple times and was basically given the same answer every time....that she is perfectly healthy and its just something that she needs to outgrow on her own. I have tried waking her, not allowing drinks past 7:00 (her bedtime is 8:30), only allowing sips of a drink, making her go before bed and having her help me with the bedding and nothing has helped. I just don't know what else to do. The laundry is killing me and there are times where I am changing sheets twice in a night! Up until a month ago, I was buying pull ups and while the largest ones still fit her, they just don't make it through the night and I still end up with a wet bed. I moved up to the goodnites thinking because they were made for older kids they would be better but that was not the case. Not only did they not work but they cost more than the pull ups and you get less in a pack!
I don't know if its a good thing but it doesn't really bother her that she does it. She hates waking up in a wet bed every morning but her still wetting the bed at her age doesn't phase or embarrass her her one bit if that makes sense. I am beginning to dread mornings with her because most mornings I have to deal with her being upset and having a fit because I am asking her to help me with her bedding. Usually she will flat out refuse to help and it gets to a point where I am late getting her to school on time.
I am hoping someone else here is going through this with their older one and could offer some suggestions. I just cant handle all the extra laundry and having to argue with her over this every morning.

Thank you everyone,
Laura
I tried several OTC's but they werent effective. But one doctor prescribed this - Tryptomer 10 mg and it solved the problem. This was way back in late 90's.

Actually we did a psychiatric evaluation also and when I google it now, looks like its used as an antidepressant also..
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Old 09-28-2018, 10:53 PM
 
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Have your tried rewards? The next time she asks or begs you for something tell her she can have it if she doesn't wet the bed for X nights. Also the sleepovers are coming. She can't go till she stops wetting the bed!
I dont know if you are being sarcastic...Its gets too embarassing if your friends knew it. Some a*holes even bullied me with this stuff.
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Old 09-28-2018, 11:07 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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Op has mentioned several times that her daughter was given a clean bill of health by her pediatrician, but he’s not a specialist. Have you taken her to a Urologist to make sure she doesn’t have a bladder issue or something else the pediatrician might be missing? That would be my next step!
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Old 09-29-2018, 01:33 AM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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Who is the parent?

She needs to help--not as a punishment but because she is old enough to help with the situation.
What GIGI3 said.

This is NOT disobedience.


She is NOT doing this to upset you, or give you extra work.



If she could control it she would.



NO ONE feels as badly about this as she does. I feel certain that her self esteem suffers from this issue.



Letting her sleep in soiled sheets is cruel and unsanitary.



I'd suggest a full physical medical examination. I know she was examined before, however, I would get a second professional opinion. This is very unusual in girls of her age, something is up.


Further, I would see a pediatrician who has a close relationship with a child psychologist who, preferably has some background in this. Enuresis can be psychological or physiological. Or, a combination of both.


While you are going through this, I suggest that you limit her fluids before sleep. NOT as a punishment, but to decrease the possibility of another bed wetting event.


I'd also do everything that you can do to make this "less messy" and to help her to maintain her dignity. The integrity of her skin is also at steak. Lying in urine over night can cause skin breakdown. Have her use some sort of night pull-up or depends.


Cover the mattress with a protective, fluid resistant sheet. Use night protection for your daughter's skin. It is NOT inappropriate for her to help you to change the sheets, but please refrain from berating her.

Punishment and rewards are certainly useful parental tools. However, they do not fit into this equation. She is NOT doing this on purpose.


Please seek additional treatment and support. I wish you both the best.
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Old 09-29-2018, 06:01 AM
 
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Op has mentioned several times that her daughter was given a clean bill of health by her pediatrician, but he’s not a specialist. Have you taken her to a Urologist to make sure she doesn’t have a bladder issue or something else the pediatrician might be missing? That would be my next step!
This.

And no punishment and no rewords. She can't control the behavior. See a urologist.
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Old 09-29-2018, 09:43 AM
 
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Am I the only one in the a lot less is a lot more camp of advice? Bed wetting is perfectly normal at this age. In my opinion, the best approach is to take care of the wetness as best you can with as little comment as you can. Bathroom before bed is part of any normal bed time routine anyway. Business as usual.
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Old 09-29-2018, 10:27 AM
 
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Am I the only one in the a lot less is a lot more camp of advice? Bed wetting is perfectly normal at this age. In my opinion, the best approach is to take care of the wetness as best you can with as little comment as you can. Bathroom before bed is part of any normal bed time routine anyway. Business as usual.
I disagree partly. There’s nothing ‘perfectly normal’ about regular bed wetting at this age. She, at the very least, needs to contact a specialist about it. However there may be nothing medically wrong.

I do agree that less is more and advised the mom as such. She seems to be placing too much time/ attention/emphasis on it. At this age the girl can take care of her own messes and should be allowed to. The family needs to stop hovering and obsessing over every wet diaper and sheet. Whether it’s medical, psychological or something else, all the angst won’t help fix the issue.

I say buy the diapers, suit up the bed, show the kid how to use it all, accept that there will be sheets in the laundry- set it and forget it.

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