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Old 10-10-2018, 05:48 PM
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I tutored many 3rd graders who were behind in reading, largely because their parents didn't take the time to sit with them. I sat with them for 1/2 hour 3 times a week, and they all entered 4th grade reading.
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Old 10-10-2018, 07:45 PM
Location: East Cobb, GA
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If he’s on the spectrum, then he needs professional help. Private therapy, and assistance from the school can be provided.

Have you tried reading to him? Maybe try to read books to him on topics that he’s interested in, and even if they’re simply try to have him read some too.
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Old 10-10-2018, 07:52 PM
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Originally Posted by tigergirl87 View Post
Good afternoon,

I am hoping to get a bit of advice. My son will be 8 soon and I just had a PTC today and was so sad by the news. The school diagnosed him with Autism and speech impairment and he has had an IEP since 1st grade. My son is verbal and can communicate but he does not seem to be making progress at all. He is reading on a kindergarted level. I am not sure what to do anymore because I know he is capable of more than what he is actually doing. I am now regretting passing him on to 1st grade. The school did reccomend retention but I went against that. Should I have another Psychological Assesment done? I cannot get him to work independently at all! If I give him homework etc. I literally have to sit right next to him to get him to focus. Can someone please offer me any advise on how to handle this. He is extremely forgetful and does not retain any information unless of course it is something he is interested in. I am worried about him going to the third grade because they actually start recieving letter grades.
Not to be funny but have you considered ADHD meds.
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Old 10-10-2018, 09:17 PM
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OP. I do not know all your details, but I would suggest unplugging the TV and computer and whatever other electronic entertainment devices he has access to. BUT, you will need to ensure he has plenty of reading materials and other items on hand (e.g., art supplies) to stay busy.
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Old 10-11-2018, 08:20 AM
Location: Knoxville, TN
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When my daughter was in 3rd grade, I was a parent volunteer in her classroom. My job was to sit in the hall with groups of 4 kids and have them take turns reading aloud. ALL kids were sent to read, but the kids who needed extra help were sent more often. So, it never looked like anyone was being singled out and I got to see the range of reading ability in the class. The difference was really stunning. Some kids read with ease and others were still sounding words out letter by letter. I recall one boy in particular started the year really struggling. I understand that he started medication at some point and then he really started to make progress. I will never forget him pumping his fist and saying "YES!" when he would get things right. Medication is a difficult issue. No one really wants their kids on meds. But, for that little boy, it would have meant his peers making progress at a much faster pace than he was.....and his basically getting left behind. These are critical years, because the kids are at the point where schools go from "learning to read" to "reading to learn."
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Old 11-16-2018, 10:14 AM
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Originally Posted by Harpaint View Post
I tutored many 3rd graders who were behind in reading, largely because their parents didn't take the time to sit with them. I sat with them for 1/2 hour 3 times a week, and they all entered 4th grade reading.
Good to hear Harpaint

The school has them for 6 or more hours, 5 days a week.
Some parents work and come home tired and worn out....why should they have to teach their child what the school should be teaching them.
Parents should be able to send their child to school with the confidence that the school is doing it's job.
It can be very frustrating to send a child to school knowing that when they get home the real lesson and learning begins....if they have the energy.

And If they don't, they will be blamed for their child not learning....despite that child going into a public school 5 days a week.
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Old 11-16-2018, 10:36 AM
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The school diagnosed him with autism? I do not have a child with autism and I also do not utilize the public schools, but is this the normal way that it's done? I was under the impression that a medical professional needed to diagnose autism spectrum disorders, not a guidance counselor or whoever diagnosed him at the school.

I would take him to the appropriate specialists and see what they say.
The educational diagnosis of autism is different from the medical diagnosis. Yes, the school system diagnoses autism for educational reasons and that is what goes on the IEP. It is actually more difficult to get the educational dx usually.
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Old 11-17-2018, 08:34 PM
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Autism often runs together with ADHD. It sounds as if your son would benefit from special education (intensive help with reading, and math if he needs it), He also needs to be evaluated for ADHD by your pediatrician, or by a pediatric psychiatrist. ADHD medication can make a HUGE difference in a child's ability to learn. I've seen kids who couldn't learn to read, because they just couldn't focus on the task at hand, then learn to read easily once they were placed on stimulant medication.

He needs a lot of help in social skills, too, if they say he has autism.

Is he small for his age? Young for his year? Is it too late to put him back in first grade for the year? If he's old for his year or tall for his age, I wouldn't do it. But if he's young for his grade, or short, it might be the right thing to do. As for the social stigma, if the school has realized that he has autism, the other kids knew it long ago. So, I wouldn't worry about stigma. It's worse for him to be struggling to learn to read. Next year they will be using reading in order to learn material, and if he cannot read by then, he's going to fall way behind. You need to concentrate on getting him reading. Extra help in school, and at home. See if you can get modified homework assignments. If you're spending more than an hour total at this age trying to get him through his homework, it's too much. Better that the time were spent on learning to read.

These kids often have poor fine motor skills, have a very hard time learning to write. For them, it's often better to go straight to keyboarding. How much do people physically write nowadays, anyway?

If there is a special ed parents group in your town, join it. If there isn't , start one. You will learn the most about how to get the best services for your son from other parents who have been through it,.
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Old 11-18-2018, 02:50 PM
Location: STL area
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Is he in any therapies/treatment for Autism? There should be quite a lot going on and you should have a professional support system.

As for reading...my kids have been in private school. I have volunteered to read with kids. All of these kids have involved parents who read to them all the time. Some of them start reading in preschool, but some kids really aren't ready until 2nd grade. Unless something else is going on, they tend to catch up. By 6th grade, you can't tell who was reading when they were 4 vs. 7. If he's not progressing now, then I'd look into whether or not his autism is part of the problem, a learning disability, etc. But if he's progressing, this can be totally normal.
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Old 11-20-2018, 05:23 PM
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Coming from a mother of an autistic son:

If your son can't focus on homework unless you are literally sitting next to him the whole time, then guess what you do? You sit next to him the whole time.

My son is 7 now. I have been "sitting next to him the whole time" teaching him how to read myself using Hooked on Phonics, iPad apps, Bob Books, flashcards, whiteboards, magnets, anything I could think of, since he was 3 years old. He is now in 1st grade, reading at a 2nd grade level. And believe you me, he got there the hard way. He must learn something (like how to add two numbers, or what greater than means) at least 20 times if not more before he can start to remember it. Then another 20 times to get good at it. You just sit next to him and teach him.

I have also taught my 7 year old step daughter with ADHD. I didn't get her until she was 6, but she couldn't name all the letters of the alphabet, and failed Kindergarten. I advised her mom and dad to have her repeat Kindergarten and get her on the right medication. I started sitting down with her night, and taught them how to do it too, so she gets one of us every night. Now she is in 1st grade, reading at a 1st grade level, progressing right on track.

There are no easy tricks. You have to put in the work. Sit down with your kid, figure out what they don't know yet, and try to teach it to them. Then do it again tomorrow, and the day after that, and the day after that, etc.
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