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Old Yesterday, 06:07 PM
Status: "unhappy" (set 24 days ago)
 
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Originally Posted by germaine2626 View Post
So your son's GF told you that he can't "perform" ?!?!
She told you way too much information.
You know your son is being cheated on and you dont say anything? You are his mother. How can you keep this to yourself?

Her telling you he "can't perform" is an excuse for her behavior. It may or may not be true. She is a jerk and wants an excuse to be a jerk.
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Old Yesterday, 06:10 PM
 
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Is this for real? I mean, can it possibly be that a mother would stand aside and allow her son to be made a fool of, or worse?

Hey Mom, you had your chance. Why didn't you flat out tell Rachelle the gig is up, and she needs to tell your son what she's been up to? There may be a very good reason she's been seeing the other boy, but she needs to make the break first. You should not be the one to break the news to your son, she should. Insist on it.
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Old Yesterday, 06:13 PM
 
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Ángeles del Río Porciúncula
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Originally Posted by widowspeak67 View Post
CHEAT SHEET:

Rachelle (sons gf)
Brandon (my son)
Tyler (best friends son)
Tracey (my best friend)
Stephanie (ME)

My son is the LAZY ONE
My friends son is MR ATHLETIC
Thanks Stephanie. It was getting confusing with so many people involved.

Which brings my mind to thinking about so many to be hurt. And yet there is no way out. The cards are already dealt and it has been going on for months.

First of all, your son has two lying friends who he thinks are true friends. That is just not good for your son and he will be hurt either now or later: you pick.

Your son has good values regarding being monogamous, but poor values about his laziness. I think you need to have a talk about laziness. Tell him the result of laziness is a hamburger flipper job. He is going to have to get some ambition or he will have a poor life.

Sooo.... There isn't any way to save your son's feelings you can't undo what's been going along for months. There is really no other way to solve the problem except for your son to find out. The only question is how he is going to find out. Not when, just how, and this business has got to stop.

As far as the girlfriend, she's a cheater and a liar. You don't want your son with a person like that. There isn't any way to fix that girl except for the passage of several years where she may gain some maturity.

As far as sending him over to your neighbor's house, what if Rachelle and Tyler are in the bedroom? He won't even see them.

I'm a rip the Band-Aid of quickly kind of guy. I think you should just flat out tell Brandon and don't bring up the 4 months, hope he won't ask.

There isn't any easy way out for you. You have to pick which hard way will work best.
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Old Yesterday, 06:14 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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This whole situation is pathetic. Send your son a text and get it over with.
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Old Yesterday, 06:15 PM
Status: "Bored" (set 1 day ago)
 
Location: Sacramento
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It's up to you, but I think it would be more traumatic for him to catch them in the act,than if his mother sat him down and discussed it with him. I wouldn't send him out of the house on this windy smokey day, but thats another issue all together.
Son's at work now those two are together now. It'll have to be this weekend. My son and I be off at the same time. I shouldn't text him this. My friend is a sicko..
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Old Yesterday, 06:17 PM
Status: "Bored" (set 1 day ago)
 
Location: Sacramento
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You know your son is being cheated on and you dont say anything? You are his mother. How can you keep this to yourself?

Her telling you he "can't perform" is an excuse for her behavior. It may or may not be true. She is a jerk and wants an excuse to be a jerk.
Ive been advised to stay out by 50/50 people so far
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Old Yesterday, 06:24 PM
 
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Ángeles del Río Porciúncula
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Son's at work now those two are together now. It'll have to be this weekend. My son and I be off at the same time. I shouldn't text him this. My friend is a sicko..
I was going to suggest a short period but I felt I might be going too far. Yes, this weekend sounds fine.

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Ive been advised to stay out by 50/50 people so far
It is inevitable that it's going to happen. The longer you wait the more the hurt will be.

Unfortunately there is no happy ending for this.
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Old Yesterday, 06:56 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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Son's at work now those two are together now. It'll have to be this weekend. My son and I be off at the same time. I shouldn't text him this. My friend is a sicko..
I’m half joking about texting. No responsible parent would allow something like this to continue. It is your business if he’s living with you. He’s your son, not a random stranger.
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Old Yesterday, 07:23 PM
Status: "Bored" (set 1 day ago)
 
Location: Sacramento
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I’m half joking about texting. No responsible parent would allow something like this to continue. It is your business if he’s living with you. He’s your son, not a random stranger.
Amen
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Old Yesterday, 07:29 PM
 
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Ángeles del Río Porciúncula
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I'm glad you came to visit us Stephanie. I think what you learned will hasten a better situation than exists now.
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