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Old Yesterday, 11:12 PM
 
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I was on board with telling the son, but I realized it will just create problems for him. Right now he's a happy stoner kid with a girlfriend. The girlfriend is cheating on him with some meathead, and it's certainly not a great situation, but how does this situation not get worse by telling him?
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Old Yesterday, 11:27 PM
 
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I was on board with telling the son, but I realized it will just create problems for him. Right now he's a happy stoner kid with a girlfriend. The girlfriend is cheating on him with some meathead, and it's certainly not a great situation, but how does this situation not get worse by telling him?
Not telling him is sheltering him because we are so afraid he won’t know how to handle the news. He’s not a child that needs protection from the bad things in the world like liars and cheaters.
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Old Yesterday, 11:27 PM
 
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I was on board with telling the son, but I realized it will just create problems for him. Right now he's a happy stoner kid with a girlfriend. The girlfriend is cheating on him with some meathead, and it's certainly not a great situation, but how does this situation not get worse by telling him?
His happiness is based on a lie. That is not a good situation.

It gets better when he learns the truth, dumps the cheating wench, and finds someone who values him.
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Old Yesterday, 11:38 PM
 
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Ángeles del Río Porciúncula
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His happiness is based on a lie. That is not a good situation.

It gets better when he learns the truth, dumps the cheating wench, and finds someone who values him.
Thanks Ann. Good answer.

Is this how we teach a boy-child how to become an adult? By letting him live in a stoned dream world while his buddy ************* his girlfriend behind his back?

Maybe mom should put a note in a bag of weed and hand it to him. He can go get stoned while he reads his bad news.

I suspect he's one of those kids who lives with mommy because he's too lazy to find a job. Why work when you can have sex and smoke dope instead?
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Old Yesterday, 11:43 PM
 
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I was on board with telling the son, but I realized it will just create problems for him. Right now he's a happy stoner kid with a girlfriend. The girlfriend is cheating on him with some meathead, and it's certainly not a great situation, but how does this situation not get worse by telling him?
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Not telling him is sheltering him because we are so afraid he won’t know how to handle the news. He’s not a child that needs protection from the bad things in the world like liars and cheaters.
How does telling the son improve the situation?


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His happiness is based on a lie. That is not a good situation.

It gets better when he learns the truth, dumps the cheating wench, and finds someone who values him.
I disagree that it gets better.


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Thanks Ann. Good answer.

Is this how we teach a boy-child how to become an adult? By letting him live in a stoned dream world while his buddy ************* his girlfriend behind his back?

Maybe mom should put a note in a bag of weed and hand it to him. He can go get stoned while he reads his bad news.

I suspect he's one of those kids who lives with mommy because he's too lazy to find a job. Why work when you can have sex and smoke dope instead?

He has a job. You'd know that if you read the thread.
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Old Yesterday, 11:48 PM
 
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Ángeles del Río Porciúncula
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How does telling the son improve the situation?

I disagree that it gets better.

He has a job. You'd know that if you read the thread.
If I gave this thread an enema it would be 2 pages long.
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Old Yesterday, 11:53 PM
 
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How does telling the son improve the situation?




I disagree that it gets better.





He has a job. You'd know that if you read the thread.
I never said it would improve the situation.

If anything I’ve suggested the opposite, that the son may be happy with the current arrangement.

That is why the only duty should be to tell him what the allegations are and let him sort it out with Rachel.

It’s honorable. I don’t know how else to explain it.
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Old Today, 12:19 AM
 
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I never said it would improve the situation.

If anything I’ve suggested the opposite, that the son may be happy with the current arrangement.

That is why the only duty should be to tell him what the allegations are and let him sort it out with Rachel.

It’s honorable. I don’t know how else to explain it.
It would be honorable. I get that. It would have been more honorable 4 months ago though.

I still think doing nothing is the better option.

They've been together for 2 years. Rachelle likes the OP's son. She begged Tracey's mother not to say anything. Maybe she'll buy some toys and forget about Tracey's son. Who knows?
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Old Today, 12:27 AM
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Its normal for girls to cheat with more alphaish guys tbry say
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Old Today, 12:29 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Its normal for girls to cheat with more alphaish guys tbry say
Idiots say that. Cheating is not normal or ok.

This is your son (supposedly) you're talking about here.
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