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Old 11-07-2018, 05:28 PM
 
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Im monagamous his dad was monagamous hes like his dad was
Thatís good and Iím glad you are raising him with good examples to follow. But Iím just letting you know he wouldnít be the first teenager to surprise his parents even with a great upbringing.
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Old 11-07-2018, 05:32 PM
 
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I'm not a parent or a relationships expert, and I really don't know how to handle this, but I agree with the person that said not to text Rachelle. I'm not even sure it's a good idea to have a conversation with Rachelle.

If your son later finds out you withheld this info, he's going to be upset. But I'm still not convinced you should get involved.

Is there some way that you can get Tracey to have a little discussion with Rachelle?
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Old 11-07-2018, 05:41 PM
 
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Hes not like that
If you are so sure heís not like that, why are you so afraid to tell him? Do you trust the information Tracy gave you? Are you worried he wonít believe you?
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Old 11-07-2018, 05:58 PM
 
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Tell your son.
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Old 11-07-2018, 06:11 PM
 
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Tell your son.
But if she does that, it will probably come out that she's known for 4 months.
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Old 11-07-2018, 06:13 PM
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Is Tracey ok with this set up? She walked in on them and she is ok with her coming back to her house? She didnít tell her son that as long as he lives in her house, another manís gf is not allowed to visit? Do you know if she talked to her son about it? Did you ask her what she said to them after she walked in on them?

You donít find it odd that Rachel was caught in the middle of cheating according to your friend Tracey and still comes to your house like there is nothing wrong? She was never awkward at your house or upset? Because I think for most people that would be an incredibly awkward situation. I would think she would have started avoiding your son if his friendís mom walked in on her and his friend.
Tracey is wierd. She has this let life teach you everything.
She said they begged her not to tell him when they had revealed to her whats geen going on.
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Old 11-07-2018, 06:17 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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I would tell my son, and then butt out. You do not belong in this drama.
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Old 11-07-2018, 06:18 PM
 
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But if she does that, it will probably come out that she's known for 4 months.


I agree, redplum33. Truly, I cannot believe she has not told him. I believe she should have told her son the minute she learned that a person, i.e., his girlfriend, was deceiving him. I don't get it. I would not withhold that information from my son or anyone I love or care for.


The son is being deceived by his GF and his mother. What am I missing here?
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Old 11-07-2018, 06:30 PM
 
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Tracey is wierd. She has this let life teach you everything.
She said they begged her not to tell him when they had revealed to her whats geen going on.
Then OP give your son a chance to show you that he raised him right.

The lesson he will learn is that when you see something wrong, the honorable thing to do is to report what you saw. You will teach him this by sitting him down and saying, “This is hard for me to tell you. I struggled with it for 4 months. Tracey told me she walked in on Rachel and her son and they begged her not to say anything. If this is true, I’m very sorry. I know how much you like her.”

I feel bad for your son. He should go to the source, and call Tracey and ask her what exactly she saw and what she said. Then he can tell Rachel that Tracey told him that she saw Rachel cheating on him, and leave you out of the conversation all together. Maybe Rachel will think that Tracey was the one who spilled the beans to your son, and not you.
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Old 11-07-2018, 08:48 PM
 
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra SeŮora la Reina de los Ńngeles del RŪo Porciķncula
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Do not text this girl as it will create drama of which she will have physical evidence to share with friends, family and the world via social media. (This is how the younger generation behaves, by the way, i.e, have a tendency to over-share on social media.) You don't want a written record of this--trust me.

What would be best is to quietly take her aside for a private face-to-face conversation. She will respect you more for having the courage to bring up this difficult topic to her face--not her phone.

I repeat: Do not text her with what will most certainly be seen as an accusation. In person chat only. Written proof of an accusation will certainly create a sh**storm that no one needs.
This is an EXTREMELY IMPORTANT point!!!

Text it today and you'll see it on FB tomorrow. I agree with FKA20, nothing but telling IN PERSON!!!!!
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