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Old 11-12-2018, 05:34 AM
 
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In my case, without being too specific and long winded....

Yes, my son literally saved my life. Raising him has been
the biggest success of my life. I am incredibly grateful to
be a parent.
My daughter also saved my life when she was 7 years old.
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Old 11-12-2018, 08:26 AM
 
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No way! They'll break your heart until it feels like it's being held together with staples but I love those two crazies with every fiber of my being.
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Old 11-12-2018, 09:25 AM
 
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Does anyone here think their life would have been better without children? Or perhaps would have taken a wholly different direction?
Don't regret having children, only the choice I made on a mate to make them with. I ended up having to do it alone as a single father. It was a very bumpy road, but eventually it ended well.
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Old 11-12-2018, 10:50 AM
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I do most heartily regret reproducing, despite the fact that all 4 are productive citizens (youngest two still in college, one freshman at Purdue other 3rd year at UNC).

None gave me a speck of trouble and all are bragworthy to varying degrees however, I am so ill suited to the emotional, nurturing aspect of motherhood that all 4 suffered from being raised in an emotional vacuum.

I did very well in all practical areas of childrearing; they were raised in a highly structured household in very nice middle class sections, younger two had private schools, I was always home when they got in from school, their lives were filled with wholesome activities and enrichments.

What they never got was love. I functioned much like a nanny, an old school British nanny not a young fun loving type of nanny. I never played with them nor had any fun with them; I am incapable of that and in fact don't enjoy children at all.

All 4 are quite emotionally stunted as a result of their rearing.
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Old 11-12-2018, 11:01 AM
 
Location: State of Washington (2016)
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Well, girls in puberty gives one pause! Seriously, my daughter gave me a reason to hang on when I was diagnosed with breast cancer and she has turned into a fine young woman of whom I am very proud.
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Old 11-12-2018, 11:52 AM
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Parenting is tough but very rewarding. I also don't know what else I'd have done with myself if I hadn't had kids. The last few years of being childless for me, I kept thinking something was missing and it was time to take the next step in life. I have no regrets but I wouldn't mind a weekend off every once in a while.
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Old 11-12-2018, 04:50 PM
 
Location: Washington state
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My parents regret that they had to have children before birth control was available. Neither one of them wanted kids. My mom said if the pill had come along a year earlier, she never would have had my brothers. She always said she wished she never had kids and told us that or a regular basis. I'm sure her first reaction at finding out she was pregnant was "Oh, s**t!"
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Old 11-12-2018, 05:21 PM
 
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There's a saying, "Show me a boy at seven, and I'll show you the man." It is said that a person's personality is formed by age 7 or so.

There was a documentary years ago, where the "scientist" interviewed a group of the same children at different ages as they grew up. It was in Great Britain, I think. It seemed to be true that the children had the same flaws or good points that they had as little kids. Except I remembered that the one black boy did get more quiet and sullen as he grew up and realized he was different or was treated differently, or maybe had different opportunities? Something like that. The basics were still there, but the kids did react to their worldly environment, as they grew up. It was a very interesting documentary. It was updated years later, when they were interviewed as adults.
The UP Series! Premiered in 1964 when the kids were 7 (7 UP), and subsequently interviewed every seven years. The latest installment was 56 UP in 2013. Canít wait for 63 UP in 2020.
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Old 11-12-2018, 07:34 PM
 
Location: colorado springs, CO
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Does anyone here think their life would have been better without children? Or perhaps would have taken a wholly different direction?
Way different but not for the better!

I'd be dead by now for sure. I could have made more money. A LOT more money. You know what me, minus children, plus more money would equal?

A meteor. A massive, million-tons of exploding fireball space-rock, hurtling into the atmosphere & slamming into the earth at 1,200 miles per minute.
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Old 11-12-2018, 08:44 PM
 
Location: The analog world
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Does anyone here think their life would have been better without children? Or perhaps would have taken a wholly different direction?
Better? Absolutely not.

Different direction? Most definitely. How could it not?
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