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Old 11-10-2018, 07:10 PM
 
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Does anyone here think their life would have been better without children? Or perhaps would have taken a wholly different direction?
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Old 11-10-2018, 08:55 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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No. Not one bit.
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Old 11-10-2018, 09:54 PM
 
Location: God's Country
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Does anyone here think their life would have been better without children? Or perhaps would have taken a wholly different direction?

My late wife and I never regretted not being parents even when she contracted dementia and I had to learn how to help her with toileting, changing her diapers, and even inserting urinary catheters.


Not all people are meant to be parents. Wish more folks would realize that reality.
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Old 11-10-2018, 10:52 PM
 
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No. Not one bit.
I agree. Not a chance.
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Old 11-10-2018, 10:54 PM
 
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No. Despite the anguish one brought in adulthood I don’t regret one moment.
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Old 11-10-2018, 11:00 PM
 
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My late wife and I never regretted not being parents even when she contracted dementia and I had to learn how to help her with toileting, changing her diapers, and even inserting urinary catheters.


Not all people are meant to be parents. Wish more folks would realize that reality.


I am sorry for being dense. But are you thankful you didn't have children because your wife contacted dementia and you had to care for her like a child?
Or was this a decision you made from the very beginning when you first met?


And what does this have to do with other people not being great parents? I mean, I agree. Many people shouldn't be parents. I'm just confused how you use you and your wife's situation as an example .


Idk. I'm just confused I guess.


By the way, It sounds like you would be a great parent had you decided to go that route.
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Old Yesterday, 08:57 AM
 
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My late wife and I never regretted not being parents even when she contracted dementia and I had to learn how to help her with toileting, changing her diapers, and even inserting urinary catheters.


Not all people are meant to be parents. Wish more folks would realize that reality.
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I am sorry for being dense. But are you thankful you didn't have children because your wife contacted dementia and you had to care for her like a child?
Or was this a decision you made from the very beginning when you first met?


And what does this have to do with other people not being great parents? I mean, I agree. Many people shouldn't be parents. I'm just confused how you use you and your wife's situation as an example .


Idk. I'm just confused I guess.


By the way, It sounds like you would be a great parent had you decided to go that route.

I was conceived when my parents were still kids and yet they were fantastic, sacrificing their wants and needs so that I, and later my brother, always had the best schooling, medical care, etc. They were truly poster children for America's Greatest Generation. I realized early on that I could never measure up to them.


My wife, a sweet soul, but was never "into" kids. She was also pessimistic about the future and the conditions that descendants would likely encounter.
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Old Yesterday, 09:06 AM
 
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Oh, there were moments. I figured out a few years ago that, had we been childless, we would be retired and anchored somewhere off Fiji. I think most parents, if they were being completely honest, have stared out the window from time to time and wondered what a life would have been like without dependents.



But, no. Glad we made this journey
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Old Yesterday, 09:41 AM
 
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Even if someone regrets it, s/he likely wouldn't admit it, since that's not socially acceptable in our society. It would be very insulting to the children, for one thing.

My mother had been an only child who gave birth to five kids. She would never have said she regretted it, but I knew she did. And she was right. She was not the kind of person to have a bunch of kids and raise them well. It wasn't entirely her fault. It was difficult to get good birth control back then. She tried, but the doctor thought she was crazy for not wanting more kids, and recommended therapy. I kid you not.
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Old Yesterday, 11:33 AM
 
Location: Central IL
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I agree with bpollen. Regretful parents would be run out of town and hung by their toenails! And frankly, if you become a parent and regretted it, what are you going to do?

My parents married late, had fertility problems, adopted and then got pregnant with me. I always sensed they married because of few options (my dad might have actually been gay), tried to have kids because that was expected in the '60's...then got double the trouble - two infants within a year of each other!

My mom especially was very cool with not a maternal bone in her body but my dad was a little better - he grew up with 4 siblings and my mom was an only child of a "divorcee". But would my mother say she "regretted it"? Probably not...should she have had kids - probably not! BTW, I'm childfree by choice and knew that I would be when I was a teenager.

OP - you will not get many satisfying or helpful answers by asking the question this way.
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