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Old 11-14-2018, 03:47 PM
 
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My post #16 corresponded with the old school where it was an inflexible system, then more flex, than a variety.

Now, as far as when to start and really getting into classroom work and schedules etc etc, we have acceptable methods of starting when the parent feels is good, given a year or two. Remedies such as homeschooling, sometimes monitored by the state, sometimes not, sometimes a choice.

Hope you can figure out a solution.
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Old 11-14-2018, 08:56 PM
 
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"...why did you ask though?"

because she actually really does remember some things.
she does not remember what she does not want to.
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Old 11-15-2018, 12:19 AM
 
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She's too young to be in second grade. She can't be expected to behave like other second graders who are a year+ older than she is.
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Old 11-15-2018, 02:12 PM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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this comes back. I am trying to get my 88 year old father to remember things like this.

Called being human.

Yesterday I waited for twenty minutes outside my bosses office. I finally got in, sat down and he said how can I help you? I said " Uhhh, ummm, uhhh, o hell, I cannot remember, I will come back later. "
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Old 11-23-2018, 08:56 AM
 
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I did. not the written chart but I had a hand made one; one that said she will be a treat/reward of her choice at the end of the week.
What breaks my heart is, she genuinely seems to forget; I dont think she is being inattentive.
I don't either.
She's so young.....sounds like a NORMAL 6 year old to me.
The adults in her life (you, the teachers) should be helping (reminding) her about what she needs.
She's tooooo young right now to do it on her own, and no amount of cajoling, or anger will change that.
Give her a few years..
.and don't be angry at her when she forgets....that serves no purpose except to make your daughter feel bad about herself....and maybe frustrated that she can't please you...or get that illusive reward for remembering.
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Old 11-23-2018, 09:07 PM
 
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My son had the same kind of problem remembering things when he was that age. We found out years later that he had ADHD. At home, make a list with photos of the items that need to be packed. See if you can make a list to tape to her desk of what needs to come home with her each day.
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Old Today, 08:07 AM
 
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Thank you all. I came back to update the status. below is what I did and it WORKED! well, 2 weeks consistently at least.

1. Told her she will get a small toy if she remembers to bring the communication book back home.
2. Put a pretty bracelet on her (blue, color of the book).
3. Put blue Sun inside her outdoor shoes (water proof)

So far since 2 weeks the book is coming back home and so are her other small things. I hope this keeps up.
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Old Today, 08:58 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Thank you all. I came back to update the status. below is what I did and it WORKED! well, 2 weeks consistently at least.

1. Told her she will get a small toy if she remembers to bring the communication book back home.
2. Put a pretty bracelet on her (blue, color of the book).
3. Put blue Sun inside her outdoor shoes (water proof)

So far since 2 weeks the book is coming back home and so are her other small things. I hope this keeps up.
Great news. I'm sure that as she gets older and also gets more used to the routines, she will do fine.

She will most likely backslide any time there is a transition (new school year, new teacher etc) but re-establishing the routines is key.
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Old Today, 10:55 AM
 
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I would suggest the chart again...but instead of rewarding at the end of the week, you reward her daily, if she accomplishes the goals on the chart.


My thought is, if she's already losing focus...going a whole week for the reward is going to be pretty hard. But maybe, a daily reward might be a small bitesize she can handle, instead of the whole steak of the whole week. And maybe also, it reinforces her self-esteem, that for example, she was able to achieve her goals 3 days out of 5, etc. With plenty of praise and affirmations when she achieves.


Wouldn't have to be a BIG reward. It could be a piece of candy...or a dollar, or whatever.


And, because my son was much the same...maybe have her checked for ADD?
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Old Today, 11:07 AM
 
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Great news. I'm sure that as she gets older and also gets more used to the routines, she will do fine.

She will most likely backslide any time there is a transition (new school year, new teacher etc) but re-establishing the routines is key.
Thank you, yes, I am indeed relieved. Some reminders and some treats did help. Once it becomes a practise, I will no longer give treats and all but probably will still stick with reminders.
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