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Old 12-24-2018, 10:33 AM
 
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I have a 17 year old son in the 11th grade. I have his Xbox turning off at 1AM. He said he should be allowed to play later because his friends do and also it is Christmas vacation. He is an okay student; not always keeping up with his school work but does okay. Last night he gave me a hard time because his Xbox went off at 1. Opinions?
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Old 12-24-2018, 11:23 AM
 
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1am seems crazy late but I am far from a teenager anymore and my kid is 11 so I'm not there yet. But when I am, I can't imagine being ok with letting my kid stay up until that time playing video games.
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Old 12-24-2018, 02:46 PM
 
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Let him be. He's home, he's safe, he's on vacation. Why would you care if he stays up late?
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Old 12-24-2018, 02:53 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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I let my kids (16 and 13) stay up all night when they're on vacation, but I wake them up when I get up. There are much worse things they could be doing than playing video games. Besides, staying up all night and then having to get up early to do stuff is it's own punishment. They might as well learn that it sucks now, rather than when they're in college and the stakes are higher.
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Old 12-24-2018, 02:57 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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All I can glad I'm not raising kids. Good grief, the tech addiction for these children.
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Old 12-24-2018, 03:00 PM
 
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It's the addiction to video games that would worry me more than the staying up late during vacation time.
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Old 12-24-2018, 04:59 PM
 
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When he is living on his own, entirely self-supporting, he can set his own rules. Meanwhile, your house, your rules. I can understand that you would not want him staying up all night playing video games, even if he is on vacation. Tell him that it's non-negotiable, that you want the lights out and him off ALL technology by 1 AM, because you don't want him to turn night into day, for his mental health, and for the peace of the house, and if it comes to that, because you say so.

Meanwhile, I would use access to video games as a reward for consistent schoolwork. And I would NOT send this young man away for college, if he plans on college. He's very likely to just play video games all night, blow off classes and school, and waste your money. This is a kid who should have a part time job, and attend college full time, and play video games only if he's managing all that well. In fact, if he has all this time to waste on video gaming now, perhaps it's time for a part time job NOW, and have him save most of it.
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Old 12-24-2018, 11:08 PM
 
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i think that he needs to go by your rules....your house your rules.
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Old 12-25-2018, 09:14 AM
 
Location: Central IL
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Does he have a maximum set number of hours for video games? I suppose you could use that in conjunction - "sure, you can stay up as late as you want, but it's still only 4 (or however many) hours a day - you pick 'em." But, that is only during vacation - during school there would still be both the max hours AND not after 11:00 or whatever time at night.

You seriously don't pay attention when he says his friends get to do stuff, right?! And for those parents who say at least he's home and not drinking alcohol or doing drugs - what a low bar that's being set.
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Old 12-25-2018, 11:38 AM
 
Location: STL area
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I would lighten up during Christmas break. I think most adults are in denial about how we really were as teens. None of us were perfect angels. I know I wasn’t and I was a great kid, straight A’s, pretty nerdy, went on to do well in college, get a doctorate. But I did some stupid stuff as a teen anyway. Staying up late playing a game with my friends wouldn’t have ranked on the trouble list. We couldn’t play Atari online though . I did have some late nights with Qbert and *******

F-r-o-g-g-e-r is a bad word on here? I guess I was a worse kid than I remember LOL
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