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Old 01-05-2019, 01:45 PM
 
Location: WI
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Mom blogging, and/or writing intimate details about your children on widely read, international media outlets has always left a bad taste in my mouth. But this Mom just takes it to a whole new level and even when her daughter ASKS her Mom for privacy, she doesnít oblige. How awful.
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Old 01-05-2019, 02:18 PM
 
Location: Wherever life takes me.
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Mom blogging, and/or writing intimate details about your children on widely read, international media outlets has always left a bad taste in my mouth. But this Mom just takes it to a whole new level and even when her daughter ASKS her Mom for privacy, she doesnít oblige. How awful.
Thatís one perspective.
I read the whole thing and itís seems they worked together to come to a compromise and that she even mentioned evolving a little bit more as time goes on.

I mean we did read the same thing right?
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Old 01-05-2019, 02:32 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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The first thing that struck me as dubious in the article is the idea that the FIRST thing a fourth-grader would look up on the internet is her mom's name

But then as I read all I could see was a mom trying to justify her need to continue doing what she wants to do.

She goes on to bloviate about how she's going to pay lip service to her daughter's request, but in the end, she blows it all by revealing the equally Googleable pseudonym they both agreed on.

It's sad.
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Old 01-05-2019, 02:33 PM
 
Location: planet earth
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I don't know a lot about mom blogging, but I think if revealing personal details of your child's life is part of your blog, then there are definitely privacy issues because each person sees experiences through their own filters - mom might think one thing, and the child might have a completely different perspective - that's one issue - who "owns" the truth about whatever is being written about? If the child is pre-verbal, an infant or toddler, they have no agency in mom's perspective. Young children would have no "rank" in terms of being able to speak up and defend themselves.

I think moms who blog private details about their children must come from a perspective that they "own" their small children - and that whatever is happening in the household is solely "their" experience - no one else has a real say . . .

And what is the motive for the blog? Ego on mom's part, trying to generate income, other?
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Old 01-05-2019, 03:20 PM
 
Location: WI
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That’s one perspective.
I read the whole thing and it’s seems they worked together to come to a compromise and that she even mentioned evolving a little bit more as time goes on.

I mean we did read the same thing right?
Either you respect someone’s privacy, or you don’t. She chose not to, even after her daughter asked her to. The onus should not be on the CHILD to verbalize what details of her personal life she wants splashed across the Internet.

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Old 01-05-2019, 03:55 PM
 
Location: Richardson, TX
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What about Lynn Johnstonís long running comic, For Better or For Worse? It was a loosely fictionalized account of her real family, and very popular.

A contemporary example is of a very successful Mommy blogger is The Pioneer Woman, who has posted hundreds of stories and pictures about her children for many years.
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Old 01-05-2019, 04:32 PM
 
Location: Florida
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I can see it both ways. On the one hand, she should respect her daughter's privacy. If her daughter was able to find the blog easily, then the girl's friends (and not-friends) will also be able to find it. On the other hand, motherhood is a vital part of who the author is and I can understand her wanting to write about it.

I'd personally draw the line at painful/embarrassing stories and photos. You can write about your life without including those things. And particularly since the child is now a pre-teen (I'm assuming she's around 10), it's good that she will check each story/image before publishing it. I didn't like her attitude of "well, I can't stop writing about you." I'm a middle-aged adult and if my mother was posting photos of me and writing a blog about me or our relationship, I would not be very happy about that.
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Old 01-05-2019, 10:00 PM
 
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what is the question?
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Old 01-06-2019, 08:03 AM
 
Location: WI
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what is the question?

There isn't really a question, per se. Just general discussion about the article and things like children's privacy in the digital age, consent, etc.
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Old 01-06-2019, 10:40 AM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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I don't think they are anything terribly new. Before the digital age there was the late Irma Bombeck. She was so funny.
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