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Old 01-14-2019, 08:09 PM
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Hi all, i really need some advice or at least a sounding board. First, trigger warning, i do mention miscarriages in my question.

My friend's due date was mid december of last year but i have not heard from her since october. This is not the norm. We have been friends since college and have always been in touch at least once a week. Im worried about her.

Prior to this pregnancy, she had 2 miscarriages. With this current pregnancy, she was very scared and very cautious. As far she told me, everything was progressing along as normal. But then in october, she stopped all contact. I reached out during the holidays but havent heard anything back. The last time i texted her was on mew years.

We dont have any mutual friends and we dont live close. I havent made any more attempts to reach out since she clearly wants some space. But im really concerned and im not sure what to do.

Logically and rationally i know i need to back off and give her space. She will reach out qhen ready. But i fear the worst and im not sure what i shpuld do. Any advice???
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Old 01-14-2019, 08:20 PM
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I understand how concerned you are and I would be the same if I was in your place. I would suggest that you give her some space, she knows that you have reached out to her so if and when she is ready she may get in touch.
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Old 01-16-2019, 08:55 AM
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Lets hope that she hasn't been in contact with you because she's tooooo busy with her baby.
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Old 01-16-2019, 06:12 PM
Location: Florida
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If she has a one month old baby, she still isn’t sleeping during the night and awake during the day, most likely. Hopefully the issue is that motherhood is all-encompassing and in the early days/weeks, almost every new mom is shocked by the utter exhaustion. That starts getting better during the second month.

Is she on social media at all? No baby pics? Maybe her husband/partners social media account?
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Old 01-17-2019, 11:59 PM
Location: Georgia
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Texting, etc. *sigh* Pick up the darn phone and CALL her. If she answers, just tell her that she's been on your mind, and you wanted to know how she was. If she doesn't answer and you have to leave a message, at least perhaps she'll hear in your voice that you are concerned and will call you back.
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Old 01-24-2019, 06:16 PM
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The first 3 months with a newborn are very intense. We just turned off the phones. Hopefully that's what's going on.

Or you could be right, and she could be profoundly depressed and isolating herself from the world.
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Old Today, 09:26 PM
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You've been friends since college, were in contact at least once a week and have no friends in common. Hard to believe.
1st time poster and never returned.
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