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Old 02-02-2019, 02:27 PM
 
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Was she not good in sports then? I remember she was interested in that.
She was on the volleyball team in the fall. It took up a lot of time so we let her take a break from piano that semester.

She's decent in sports, actually a pretty good basketball player especially for her size (smallish), but kinda has the same problem - she gets discouraged or lazy and doesn't want to do it any more. We didn't push her to continue basketball; her classmates were pressuring her and she still resisted.

She says she liked volleyball and will do it again next year, so we'll see.
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Old 02-02-2019, 02:43 PM
 
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One thing I will never understand is this weird thing that parents feel the need to just go all fanatic in pushing their kids to do piano/instruments of any kind/sports. I did not understand it as a kid (thank God my parents were not like that), and I do not understand it as an adult.

It is more than just introducing, the fanatic nature that the kid "must do it at all cost" is really baffling.
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Old Yesterday, 12:42 PM
 
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One thing I will never understand is this weird thing that parents feel the need to just go all fanatic in pushing their kids to do piano/instruments of any kind/sports. I did not understand it as a kid (thank God my parents were not like that), and I do not understand it as an adult.

It is more than just introducing, the fanatic nature that the kid "must do it at all cost" is really baffling.
I push my kids some to do a sport, music or something else. Because they're not going to sit home all day and play video games or watch TV. If they don't like a particular activity, they can choose another one; but they aren't going to play video games or just ride bikes up and down the street. I want them to learn something else in life.
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Old Yesterday, 01:26 PM
 
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One thing I will never understand is this weird thing that parents feel the need to just go all fanatic in pushing their kids to do piano/instruments of any kind/sports. I did not understand it as a kid (thank God my parents were not like that), and I do not understand it as an adult.

It is more than just introducing, the fanatic nature that the kid "must do it at all cost" is really baffling.
This. We have a max one extracurricular activity at a time, and if they're not interested, that's fine. My older two aren't big into sports, but they decided they really want to start fencing soon. That will be their main activity outside the house. Everything else they're interested in can be done at home (writing, reading, drawing/art, self-study, crafts, STEM kits, etc.) and they can pursue areas of interest that suit them.
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Old Yesterday, 01:36 PM
 
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Anyway, how hard do you push in a situation like this? Do we just say "sorry, you need to stick with this" or do we back off and hope she'll come back to it some day on her own time (which I doubt will happen)? I'm very concerned that if we force this on her she's going to develop some resentments that will manifest themselves elsewhere.

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It shouldn't even be a question, I get pushing kids to try things but once they've given a fair shot it's up to them. If it's so awesome take lessons yourself.
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Old Today, 09:11 AM
 
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She's a very bright kid, extremely well behaved and hardly ever gives us any trouble. She's one of those kids who does well in school without really trying

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for those reasons (above) alone, I wouldn't torture her by forcing her to do something that brings her to tears when it's really not necessary.
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