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Old 02-27-2019, 09:49 PM
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While there are exceptions for sure, 19 months is pretty young for independent play. My youngest would not have been OK with that AT ALL. He is now 3 and is completely fine anywhere in the house with or without me. I am always nearby of course, but I can easily be working in another room or cooking or taking a shower or whatever and he will play or watch PBS (never hand held devices or computers). If he needs or wants something he knows where to find me always. Hang in there mom; he will get there, but I think you are asking a lot of a 19 month old.
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Old 02-27-2019, 10:09 PM
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You're doing fine...this too shall pass.
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Old Yesterday, 09:10 AM
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Geez. 19 months? You do not have a problem. If he were 19 years, it would be a problem. But you might try getting him into a play group to keep him occupied.
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Old Today, 11:08 AM
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I donít remember my kids being clingy, but I do remember that I always tried to respect their needs. I think a baby knowing his needs are going to be met makes for a calm trusting individual.

In OPs circumstances, Iíd respect that my son needs to be able to see me nearby. Iím sure this will pass soon, but right now, he needs it. Pretty soon, he will forget to keep looking for you, and figure out heís fine.

If this helps, all my kids turned out great, and they couldnít get away fast enough.
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Old Today, 08:06 PM
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Originally Posted by olivejasie View Post
Is independent play for young toddlers a fantasy, or am I doing something wrong? This kid will ONLY play if Iím in view, and even then itís not enough. Leaving the room to do something as quickly as pee is an absolute tragedy. I donít get it. Iíve read all the blogs, watched all the videos, followed all the advice and my 19 month old is still my shadow, no matter what. Iíve read that they should be playing up to 45 minutes alone at this age, wtf?

Als0, I fully realize that his separation anxiety is within the range of normal for kids his age, but I honestly have no idea how to handle it. On one hand, I want to be responsive to him, and I never want him to feel abandoned or neglected. On the other, I'd love for him to be more independent and not so insecure when I'm not around.

Please help a FTM out.
If he still needs you, be there for him.
That's is how you make them independent, rejection incites anxiety but you know that.
You don't need a book to tell you any of this.
Sorry you cannot pee in private :
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