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Old 03-26-2019, 05:19 AM
 
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You definitely should reach out to the police.
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Old 03-26-2019, 07:37 AM
 
Location: NJ
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Sorry, I assumed OP was a teenage boy.
Me too, especially with the part where the step father ripped OP's shirt off. I don't think he'd do that to a girl but I could be wrong...

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Then when i got away again he had ripped my shirt off of me
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Old 03-26-2019, 09:24 AM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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Sorry, I assumed OP was a teenage boy.
Why would that matter? Is it OK to abuse, ridicule or bully teenage boys?
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Old 03-26-2019, 12:43 PM
 
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Why would that matter? Is it OK to abuse, ridicule or bully teenage boys?
It does make it MORE weird that he ripped her shirt off ...
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Old 03-26-2019, 03:23 PM
 
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Why would that matter? Is it OK to abuse, ridicule or bully teenage boys?
OP refused to obey his stepfather. Doesn't sound like he is helping out at home. In fact, OP sounds very much like a moody teenager.

I never abused my kids but I was pretty p*ssed off when they disobeyed me. I am not a maid so they had to help with chores. I didn't put up with any moody teenage back talk.

Respect is a two way street.

PS I went back and reread the OP first post. Obviously, there have been a major amount of tension between OP and the stepfather over the last three years. In a more stable situation, family therapy would be an option. There is a chicken and egg, which came first, situation here. However, in this situation, the OP should be working on becoming independent, helping out at home, and getting ready for college or trade school. Arguing with the stepfather isn't going to help him.

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Old 03-26-2019, 04:20 PM
 
Location: NJ
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OP refused to obey his stepfather. Doesn't sound like he is helping out at home. In fact, OP sounds very much like a moody teenager.

I never abused my kids but I was pretty p*ssed off when they disobeyed me. I am not a maid so they had to help with chores. I didn't put up with any moody teenage back talk.

Respect is a two way street.

PS I went back and reread the OP first post. Obviously, there have been a major amount of tension between OP and the stepfather over the last three years. In a more stable situation, family therapy would be an option. There is a chicken and egg, which came first, situation here. However, in this situation, the OP should be working on becoming independent, helping out at home, and getting ready for college or trade school. Arguing with the stepfather isn't going to help him.
Add to it hes probably old enough to get a job
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Old 03-26-2019, 05:10 PM
 
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Add to it hes probably old enough to get a job
16 is old enough to get a part time job if s/he is still in high school.
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Old 03-26-2019, 06:13 PM
 
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Consider not wearing headphones in the house except in your bedroom. You want to be able to hear where your stepfather is at all times.

We are only hearing your side of the story. Your stepfather was out of line but that doesn't mean you aren't snarky, lazy, and a problem. Or, maybe you are so good you fart rainbows.

Whether you are good, bad, or in between, I suggest you try to get good grades. Get a part time job. You may have to give up somethings you like, be it sleeping in or spending money on electronics or whatever your current passion is, to have what you want in the future. But if you want to leave home it will be much easier if you have a little cash stashed. Even if you go to live with your dad you should have a little money tucked away. I also suggest you don't let the step dad know you have any cash. Hide it well. Tell him you blow your paycheck. He will probably believe that if he thinks as poorly of you as he says. . Consider military, but I don't think they take just anyone these days.

If the violence escalates towards you, your mom, or the younger children.....call the police.
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Old 03-27-2019, 07:41 AM
 
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This is one of those situations where we can talk about who is right or wrong, over and over again.

In a way, it doesn't matter. OP shouldn't waste time on it. OP energy should be spent on getting out - army, college, trade school, job - whatever.

My parents weren't great. I worked to become an adult and live my own life. This is what kids should do anyway.
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Old 03-28-2019, 12:23 PM
 
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Sorry, I assumed OP was a teenage boy.
OP is a teenage boy. Not a girl.

From the OP: "I stay in my room most of the time practicing and learning about music. But because im always in my room he complains about "he doesnt do anything" but if someone repeatedly told you that youre not worth their time or you never do anything right you wouldnt want to do anything for them either."
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