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Old Yesterday, 05:38 AM
 
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Yes, I’ve witnessed this with my family. I think it’s very inappropriate regardless of age. Every kid deserves to feel special on their birthday without someone stealing the spotlight. Is this becoming a trend giving a small gift to a sibling as well when it’s not their birthday? Kids need to learn the world doesn’t revolve around them and be happy for others celebrating milestones such as birthdays
Everyone, regardless of age, needs to accept that anybody can give a gift at any time to whomever they want, and that no one is entitled to everything. Does not matter if you are a child or adult, conservative or liberal, white or black or orange.
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Old Yesterday, 09:09 AM
 
Location: Indianapolis, East Side
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My family has a lot of birthdays around the same time. My mother would invite the whole fan-damily, most of whom I had nothing in common with, to a big dinner (which I usually hate anyway). The point is, when it's the birthday of half the people in the room, it's not your special day anymore.
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Old Yesterday, 09:20 AM
 
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My aunt used to do that for us when we were children, and continued that tradition when I had children. The birthday kid got a larger gift, and in the box was an item for the non birthday siblings. Something very small.

And the birthday kid would open the package, locate the smaller gifts for the siblings, and distribute them.

What a lovely idea.

I think I'll do that when I have grand children. It certainly didn't cause any sibling rivalry or feelings that the birthday kid wasn't "special". Same idea as giving party favors or prizes to birthday party attendees, actually.
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Old Yesterday, 09:41 AM
 
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Just no. I had to read it twice, thinking you meant did the siblings pick out a small gift for the birthday kid.

If you think a child needs a gift in order to not be jealous of the birthday boy/girl, the problem is the jealousy, not whether you should or should not reward potential jealousy with a gift. WTH?
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Old Yesterday, 09:52 AM
 
Location: ATL -> HOU -> DAL
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That sounds absurd. My sister's birthday is a month and a half before me. Even at a young age (and she's older than me by 6 years) did I think I should also get a gift. I knew it was her day and my was right around the corner.

This to me sounds like someone who on mother's day would say "You should love your mother every day"
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Old Yesterday, 09:59 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Yes, Iíve witnessed this with my family. I think itís very inappropriate regardless of age. Every kid deserves to feel special on their birthday without someone stealing the spotlight. Is this becoming a trend giving a small gift to a sibling as well when itís not their birthday? Kids need to learn the world doesnít revolve around them and be happy for others celebrating milestones such as birthdays
I don't think it is appropriate, but at the same time, I don't think it steals the spotlight or anything like that.

However, I think that if someone wants to give someone a gift (age appropriate, thoughtful, they are not weirdly obsessed with the kids, etc), it's rude to give them a hard time about it.
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Old Yesterday, 10:05 AM
 
Location: North Idaho
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No birthday gift for the non-birthday siblings, but I do recommend allowing them to have a slice of the birthday cake (but not their own smash cake)


This "everyone is always a winner no matter how they perform" mentality is doing a lot of damage to our country.
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Old Yesterday, 10:20 AM
 
Location: Texas
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This "everyone is always a winner no matter how they perform" mentality is doing a lot of damage to our country.
I totally agree with this, but I don't think having a birthday is some special achievement or performance.
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Old Yesterday, 10:38 AM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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Yes, Iíve witnessed this with my family. I think itís very inappropriate regardless of age. Every kid deserves to feel special on their birthday without someone stealing the spotlight. Is this becoming a trend giving a small gift to a sibling as well when itís not their birthday? Kids need to learn the world doesnít revolve around them and be happy for others celebrating milestones such as birthdays
I think it's crazy. Kids need to learn giving as well as receiving. Not every day is their birthday, sometimes we celebrate milestones with other people.

Instead of receiving a small gift, the sibling of the birthday child should be happily shopping for a small gift for their sibling.

Giving should also be a joy!
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Old Yesterday, 10:56 AM
 
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Instead of receiving a small gift, the sibling of the birthday child should be happily shopping for a small gift for their sibling.
How does receiving a gift prevent someone from also giving a gift?
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