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Old 04-15-2019, 06:27 PM
 
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My son will have his 10th birthday party in two weeks. He has sent invitations to almost his entire class. But no one has RSVPed yet. Should I just cancel the party and do something with him or just see what happens? I donít want him to have to go school and see the kids who were supposed to come to his party.
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Old 04-15-2019, 06:34 PM
 
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I would wait until a week before the party and call the parents if you haven't heard anything by then.
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Old 04-15-2019, 06:36 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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Some people are notorious for not RSVPing in just about any situation. Etiquette is definitely something that people need to be better educated about and put into practice more.
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Old 04-15-2019, 07:17 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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People these days rarely RSVP. It's so frustrating.

It's too early to give up. I agree with the suggestion to email the parents individually in a few days.
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Old 04-15-2019, 07:47 PM
 
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I would wait until a week before the party and call the parents if you haven't heard anything by then.
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People these days rarely RSVP. It's so frustrating.

It's too early to give up. I agree with the suggestion to email the parents individually in a few days.
I agree. Contact the parents.
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Old 04-15-2019, 10:10 PM
 
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I would contact the parents, I can't remember anyone responding to a r.s.v.p to my kids party even though they all showed up.
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Old 04-15-2019, 10:18 PM
 
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My son will have his 10th birthday party in two weeks. He has sent invitations to almost his entire class. But no one has RSVPed yet. Should I just cancel the party and do something with him or just see what happens? I donít want him to have to go school and see the kids who were supposed to come to his party.
Hmm. To "almost" his entire class.

My guess is, those he didn't send invitations to, might have responded positively?

By the 10th birthday you kind of know who will show up at a party, and who your kid's friends are.

This isn't like a kindergarten party.
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Old 04-15-2019, 10:49 PM
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My son will have his 10th birthday party in two weeks. He has sent invitations to almost his entire class. But no one has RSVPed yet. Should I just cancel the party and do something with him or just see what happens? I donít want him to have to go school and see the kids who were supposed to come to his party.
This can be very disheartening for a parent.

When I send out invitations, I actually request that parents notify me if their children can't attend. Most people that can't attend are probably relieved that you have allowed for this possibility, and respond accordingly.

If you perhaps have a child that isn't the most extroverted of kids, it's probably best to have the parties at your home where close friends and family can fill the gap. Blessings to your little one. At the end of the day, they just want a lot of fuss made over them on their special day, by people that love them - even if they say they don't want fuss.
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Old 04-15-2019, 11:31 PM
 
Location: Eugene, Oregon
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My son will have his 10th birthday party in two weeks. He has sent invitations to almost his entire class. But no one has RSVPed yet. Should I just cancel the party and do something with him or just see what happens? I don’t want him to have to go school and see the kids who were supposed to come to his party.

If your son is heartbroken by no one coming to his party, it will be because you set him up for it, by wanting to make a social splash. You should have been aware of how popular he is with his classmates and not have put him on the spot with this proposed event. My parents would never have held a party for me, but if they'd tried, I would have vetoed it, knowing that few, if any, other kids would come. The popularity of children with their peers, is something that their parents cannot engineer.
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Old Yesterday, 04:14 AM
 
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If your son is heartbroken by no one coming to his party, it will be because you set him up for it, by wanting to make a social splash. You should have been aware of how popular he is with his classmates and not have put him on the spot with this proposed event. My parents would never have held a party for me, but if they'd tried, I would have vetoed it, knowing that few, if any, other kids would come. The popularity of children with their peers, is something that their parents cannot engineer.
I think you are projecting your own childhood issues here.....?

I am in a similar boat with my son turning 11 shortly. HE requested the party. We sent out an invite, many kids were excited to go, but we only heard a few acceptances. After sending out a reminder we got more RSVPs declining (some offering to provide a gift still which is unnecessary but nice.) This is the time of year for travel sports weekends and college visits for older siblings.

Ultimately if only a few come then thatís just fine. Quality over quantity. If nobody shows up then my son will be upset but we will have a good time regardless. What we wonít do is to put it on social media to garner sympathy.
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