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Old 04-17-2019, 08:09 PM
 
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Maybe the negative responses stem from not knowing how large Jacksonville is. If you had said Gainesville, I would agree with the negative posters. Jacksonville is huge, not in population necessarily, but in area. It covers 875 square miles, compared to 55 square miles for Miami, and 113.7 square miles for Orlando.
I am just going to say NO and I lived in one of the barrier island towns outside of Jacksonville. It is really not that big a city. Yes, geographically it is spread out, but there arenít that many people there and the traffic is relatively light compared to the other FL cities. It took me like 30-45 minutes max to get anywhere in the city. I lived on the opposite side of the city from the airport and that was a 30-minute ride. I am from the Tampa area and there drives that were much shorter might take an hour or even 90 minutes in rush hour. It isnít just about geography but how long it can take you to get somewhere. Jacksonville is sparsely populated for the size.
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Old 04-17-2019, 09:14 PM
 
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Daughter went to college out of state and son is currently in college even further out of state. We raised them to become independent thinking adults that didn't need us. Now that said, I would love to retire to the town where she went to college. Beautiful location with all the things you want in a retirement town -- culture, access to big city while being a small town, plenty of outdoors fishing, camping, hiking, boating. Unfortunately a couple of retirement magazines have included it in their top 10 lists so there they go, ruining a good thing. But she's already graduated, has a job, and living on her own, so it wouldn't be a case of moving near by; we'd actually be further away.
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Old 04-18-2019, 04:37 AM
 
Location: North Dakota
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I live near my parents does that make them bad for living near me ?
I have no idea why you would say that, we give her more freedoms and let her do more things on her own than many other parents within reason if her age . It’s nothing to do with cutting the cord
No living near your parents does not mean you haven't cut the cord necessarily. However, following your daughter to her college town is not cutting the cord. She is an adult, let her be one.
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Old 04-18-2019, 08:36 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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Sounds ridiculous to me.

Part of the point in going to college is learning to be your own person, breaking away from the parents, being responsible for yourself, preparing yourself for a life based upon your own talents and resources, etc.

And what about your own careers? Wouldn't they take a hit from changing jobs like that? For many people, they have a history and reputation at their workplace that they would be abandoning, losing opportunities to advance. In some cases they would lose their years accrued toward their pension. Not to mention the cost involved in selling a home and purchasing another. And then when your kid graduates and gets a job somewhere across the country, now you are living in this place why?

Send your kid off to college, and then move wherever you please if you really want to, and can afford whatever changes that brings.
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Old 04-18-2019, 08:50 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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^^^posted this before reading the whole thread.

After reading all, it seems more like your daughter is not comfortable living away from you. So maybe her going away to college would be better for her learning to be independent of you. Are you ready to retire now? What happens with your jobs if you move?
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Old 04-18-2019, 01:07 PM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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Sounds kind of weird to move to where your kids goes to school.
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Old 04-18-2019, 03:13 PM
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^^^posted this before reading the whole thread.

After reading all, it seems more like your daughter is not comfortable living away from you. So maybe her going away to college would be better for her learning to be independent of you. Are you ready to retire now? What happens with your jobs if you move?

I donít get why some posts seem so against it? My daughter is 16, has a job and is never home , does her own laundry etc etc what is wrong if she loves her parents and is ok with them living in the same city as where she goes to college. Tryst me when I say sheís rarely home and is NOT needy or clingy . Just mentioning this as no one seems to believe me lol
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Old 04-18-2019, 03:14 PM
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Sounds kind of weird to move to where your kids goes to school.
I know if many parents who have done it? Never seemed weird to me as long as they donít annoy the kid
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Old 04-18-2019, 03:15 PM
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^^^posted this before reading the whole thread.

After reading all, it seems more like your daughter is not comfortable living away from you. So maybe her going away to college would be better for her learning to be independent of you. Are you ready to retire now? What happens with your jobs if you move?

Husband is an RN
I am a vet tech, no issues to relocate
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Old 04-18-2019, 03:37 PM
 
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People have all different kinds of relationships with their children. You do not need to defend yours. From what you describe, your daughter seems rather independent. If you and your daughter are fine with the arrangement, then I do not see a problem with you living in the same area as her.

I know a couple of people who retired (early) immediately after their kids graduated high school. Both families moved to Florida and their children are attending college there. I do not see any helicopter parenting going on in those situations. The kids wanted to move to Florida. They were given the option to chose their own college. Both chose colleges near their parents. Neither of them lives with their parents.
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