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Old Today, 06:41 AM
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Hi all,

How many parents out there moved to the city where theyre child attenda college? Good idea/bad idea? Thinking about it, but would live far enough away to not be a pain in the ass and be with her all the time as we want her to be on her own as much as possible. We are also thinking of moving away from south florida anyway as we are not happy here and shes considerng jax for college....thoughts??
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Old Today, 06:58 AM
 
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Seems ridiculous for 4 years but that’s just my two cents. If you want her to be independent let her go off and sink or swim on her own.
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Old Today, 07:08 AM
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The only real reason we would move with her is becaause we don't like where we are living now and wanted to wait till she went off to college ins tead of move in high school...just not sure how many parents have done this
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Old Today, 07:18 AM
 
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What happens when she gets a job in Seattle or Dallas after 4 years is up?
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Old Today, 07:22 AM
 
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My friends did. 2 or 3 of their kids are in the same school. They wanted to get out of where they lived and they bought a condo in the general area and a large house that they plan to really retire to, but that's several hours away. It's kept them close enough to the kids and their own parents and seems to be working out really well for them all. They're already retired, but not ready to leave the state yet. They are not camped out on their kids' campuses - they are at wineries, hiking trails and concerts. They're having the time of their lives - and occasionally have dinner with their kids.
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Old Today, 07:29 AM
 
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We're seriously considering it. Our metro doesn't have the full and focused undergrad>masters program our eldest is pursuing. She'll be in school 3 years longer, by the time our two youngest start. The youngest may not go to college but trade school, and that program is available in the other city as well. The middle child plans to be in a program just as long and an excellent school for it is located in that city as well.

Our jobs are transferrable to that city. It's a similar COL and likely a better QOL for that season in all of our lives. It's a much cheaper airport as well, for when we travel.

We like our kids and they like us. And paying $60K/year for 3 students to room and board for 9 months/year, plus the back and forth of holidays and breaks, appeals to none of us. If we move (in-state move), they will be able to complete their undergrad for perhaps as much as $5000/yr. (the fee is about half that; I include commuting costs and books), get their master's for about $15K, not spend $20K/year in room & board, and be able to start their professional, adult lives without student loans.

I think that saving our children, collectively, hundreds of thousands in student loans for housing will be better for our family overall... well worth an in-state move (gotta love and keep that resident-tuition rate.) We aren't co-signing any student loans but we ARE willing to save them money, especially THIS much money.

eta: I would expect them to pursue whatever better opportunities they see after graduation. We no more expect them to live close to us as they expect us to stay in the same place. We all get to live wherever is best for us... as parents, we're thinking we'd like to do this for them though. They can go wherever they'd like... but if they do it during college, they're aware how much it'll cost them. It's really the only benefit to so many adults they see, complaining about their oppressive student loans. Some of their friends' parents and their aunts and uncles and adult cousins - even one grandmother who got her master's late in life - are saying how they can't afford so many things/have children/buy homes/retire because their student loans make it completely prohibitive. They don't want that. They understand WHY we're discussing a move.

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Old Today, 07:36 AM
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What happens when she gets a job in Seattle or Dallas after 4 years is up?
We really love the area where the college is located so we would just retire there and not move again-
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Old Today, 07:53 AM
 
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We really love the area where the college is located so we would just retire there and not move again-
Would it affect her decision? Would she be glad or sad at the thought?

Would you move if she didnít choose that school?
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Old Today, 07:56 AM
 
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We really love the area where the college is located so we would just retire there and not move again-
Retiring somewhere you enjoy is not the same as following your child to college.

One should be a well thought out and planned decision; one appears desperate and helicoptering.
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Old Today, 07:58 AM
 
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If the city she is attending college in is a place you would truly want to relocate to long term I would say go for it. But if you are moving for the sole purpose to be close to her I'd say that's kind of odd and would be hindering her growth from a child to an adult.


I had a good friend attend college a few states away and his mom quite her job and sold her house to move into an apartment close to her sons college. She would stop by his dorm and pick up his dirty laundry and return it clean. Did all his grocery shopping. Even one time walked by one of his classes to make sure he was attending. It was so weird. He didn't want any of it but didn't want to hurt his moms feeling so he just kind of dealt with it.


Not saying that you would go to these extremes, just make sure you give her space and let her make her own mistakes and live her life. Just my 2 cents. Good luck!
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