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Old 05-08-2019, 04:51 PM
 
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Regarding the subject of kids self-labeling their sexuality as something other than straight:

I am straight and it never occurred to me that I was anything else, but when I was 12 in 1965, I didn't even know what a homosexual was, and I didn't find out until I was about 15 or 16 when I came across it somewhere and asked my mom. (The word "gay" was not used around me at that time.) There were one girl and one boy I knew at my high school of about 2,000 kids that stood out in a way that I would think were members of the LGBT community, and I "know" now that there were probably close to 200 kids who weren't straight, so my point is that back then in my school, LGBT kids were not "out" nearly to the degree that they have been for the past 20 years or so.

Anyway, I just wonder if anyone knows of a link to any statistics showing how many kids thought or knew that they were gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered 50 years ago?

I did find the following two links that show that there many more Millennials identify as being LGBT than older people (about 20% vs. 4%):

https://news.gallup.com/poll/201731/...ion-rises.aspx

https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-...-lgbtq-n740791

It makes me wonder if all the sex education and openness about not everyone being straight is having an impact!
It was dangerous to come out 50 years ago. People knew, but did not tell anyone because they were likely to be targeted back then.

Many today, don't tell their parents.

https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2013...gbt-americans/

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About four-in-ten (39%) say that at some point in their lives they were rejected by a family member or close friend because of their sexual orientation or gender identity; 30% say they have been physically attacked or threatened; 29% say they have been made to feel unwelcome in a place of worship; and 21% say they have been treated unfairly by an employer. About six-in-ten (58%) say theyíve been the target of slurs or jokes.

Also, just 56% say they have told their mother about their sexual orientation or gender identity, and 39% have told their father. Most who did tell a parent say that it was difficult, but relatively few say that it damaged their relationship.

The survey finds that 12 is the median age at which lesbian, gay and bisexual adults first felt they might be something other than heterosexual or straight. For those who say they now know for sure that they are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender, that realization came at a median age of 17.
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Old 05-08-2019, 06:36 PM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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I agree with you. NYC parade is almost pornographic and I find it unbelievable that someone would take small children.

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Old 05-08-2019, 06:49 PM
 
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No I wouldn't let my child even see such a parade. inappropriate for children. regardless of gender or gender preferences.

Those things(that I have seen) get unbelievably over the line but for adults, their business.
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Old 05-08-2019, 07:22 PM
 
Location: Naples FL
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Iíd have no issue with it .. nudity and sexuality are not things Iíd want to hide from kids. They have to learn whatís normal from seeing whatís not as much as seeing what is.
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Old 05-08-2019, 10:05 PM
 
Location: California
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No I would not. I don't think it's right to put kids on display for a cause, it's forever links them to something they may not actually want to be part of as they get older.
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Old 05-09-2019, 04:01 AM
 
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At 12. Nope.

I cannot wrap my head around the concept that a "child" knows their gender attraction at 12. Most of my gal pals and I would discuss certain things and yes we were Bi curious at times. yet not a one of us 100% categorically identified ourselves as anything other then, female and going thru changes.

Granted after seeing some online tv shows of how 10 and 12 yr olds are active in "adult" behavior, I doubt any of them really understand the responsibility or the conscious decision.
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Old 05-09-2019, 04:42 AM
 
Location: Canada
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I think as long as a parent or responsible adult goes along with her, why not?

It's pitiful to think, but some 12 year olds are mothers already, especially prevalent in some cultures.
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Old 05-09-2019, 04:49 AM
 
Location: Canada
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At 12. Nope.

I cannot wrap my head around the concept that a "child" knows their gender attraction at 12. Most of my gal pals and I would discuss certain things and yes we were Bi curious at times. yet not a one of us 100% categorically identified ourselves as anything other then, female and going thru changes.

Granted after seeing some online tv shows of how 10 and 12 yr olds are active in "adult" behavior, I doubt any of them really understand the responsibility or the conscious decision.
I think you are very wrong about this. I think they know it FAR younger than 12. I had crushes on boys in Kindergarten. I'm sure gay kids would have crushes just as similar as me, but on the same gender. These kids are BORN gay, and people just don't seem to get it.

My nephew was gay and had all the signs at even 3 years old. Very effeminate, liked being with girls but not boys, didn't enjoy doing things with his father (my brother) who tried to interest him in hunting and fishing with the guys, and never enjoyed playing with my sons who were rough and tumble boys. In our family, it's funny, but the only people who were blind to this were his parents, but no one mentioned it to them until he finally came out when he was in his late teens.
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Old 05-09-2019, 07:30 AM
 
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I believe you can know your gay at that age and younger but the mother putting her on display (even if itís the daughters wishes) is a bit much. Great to accept it and be open with friends and family etc....but her mom has her all over FB, fundraisers etc....itís a bit attention seeking on the mothers part and I do agree that maybe later on the daughter might not be happy her mother was doing this.
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Old 05-09-2019, 08:28 AM
 
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I think you are very wrong about this. I think they know it FAR younger than 12. I had crushes on boys in Kindergarten. I'm sure gay kids would have crushes just as similar as me, but on the same gender. These kids are BORN gay, and people just don't seem to get it.

My nephew was gay and had all the signs at even 3 years old. Very effeminate, liked being with girls but not boys, didn't enjoy doing things with his father (my brother) who tried to interest him in hunting and fishing with the guys, and never enjoyed playing with my sons who were rough and tumble boys. In our family, it's funny, but the only people who were blind to this were his parents, but no one mentioned it to them until he finally came out when he was in his late teens.

Same here. I was always having crushes on boys. Did I know there was a name for my attraction to the opposite sex, and 5, 6, 7 yrs old? No. Would I have known by 6th or 7th grade? I'm sure I would've.
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