Watching children play ='s sexual predator. (teaching, divorce, parent, girls)

[doc1]

That's similar to why I never drove the babysitters home after my wife and I went out for the evening.

One (false) accusation and you are historeee.

[5kingsinvegas]

And we wonder why there is such a shortage of male teachers these days.

[Capt. Dan]

Good point! But not just teachers. Boy scout leaders. Big Brothers/Big Sisters. All mentoring programs. These programs are suffering because of silly/vague laws like this. I cant tell you the looks and questions i used to get when i was a single parent raising 3 daughters and we would be at the park!

[Noahma]

I dread the day that someone asks if my daughter is really my daughter. I carry several forms of identification on us both just in case. It makes me sick the way some people look at me when I have my daughter at the park. I get looked at as if I was a criminal. I have made sure my daughter knows my name, and her full name as well (she is 2) and can tell someone that yes, I am her daddy.

[Lindsey_Mcfarren]

I have no problem with this law. I am the woman who would come up and demand of a man who was watching children if one of them was his own if I had reason to believe none of them were. I don't care if this offends.

Unfortunately parents don't watch, the evidence of this is how many children are molested and abducted.

I personally would object if they put my daughter into a mans class room at this point in her education. Not because I am sure he would be a pedophile but because she has had problems with learning and studies show that children learn better from a teacher of their own sex. I watch men closely who are around my daughter. It only takes a couple minutes of action on their part to harm my daughter emotionally for the rest of her life.

You would be surprised at how many men out there look at a child of 11, see that she is developing and feel that in and of itself means she is ready for sexual involvement, even with an adult.

[djf863000]

it is time for an out cry to the government. It is becoming hysteria. Sadly this only one of many prejudice here

One song is in my mind right now, thinking about it. Twisted Sisters - We not gonna take it anymore.

[Huckleberry3911948]

horrible the hatred and distrust expressed towards men. women against men children against men. all of it within my own lifetime.
the day of the accuser. matthew 10:35

[findinghope]

Originally Posted by Lindsey_Mcfarren

I have no problem with this law. I am the woman who would come up and demand of a man who was watching children if one of them was his own if I had reason to believe none of them were. I don't care if this offends.

Unfortunately parents don't watch, the evidence of this is how many children are molested and abducted.

I personally would object if they put my daughter into a mans class room at this point in her education. Not because I am sure he would be a pedophile but because she has had problems with learning and studies show that children learn better from a teacher of their own sex. I watch men closely who are around my daughter. It only takes a couple minutes of action on their part to harm my daughter emotionally for the rest of her life.

You would be surprised at how many men out there look at a child of 11, see that she is developing and feel that in and of itself means she is ready for sexual involvement, even with an adult.

lindsey, i understand your concen for your daughter--and you are right to be worried. but to demand of a man at a park to prove that he is the father of one of the children?

i hope he would be showing some odd behavior for you to do that.

[mrstewart]

My degrees are in photography and when I was working on my senior project, I went to a park to take a lunch break from the dark room. I had my camera with me and saw some hysterical children that were so engaged in their play, I asked their mother if I could take some pictures of them. She agreed enthusiastically and I was able to get some of the best shots I have ever taken.

While I was taking the pictures, I remember getting very odd looks from other parents. I am a 5'6" female with a slight frame weighing about 100 lbs soaking wet (19 years ago!!) and never considered myself to be a threatening presence.

The mother who allowed me to take pics of her children asked for my number so she could get a look at the shots. When we met about a week later, she told me that after I went back to school, some of the other mothers approached her about me taking pictures of her kids.

This surprised me UNTIL I had children of my own. I do not support the proposal in Maine as I find it to be ridiculous, impossible to prosecute and hyper vigilant. But, as a mother, I have to admit, there are some creepy folks out there and this is why it is our responsibilty to watch our babies like hawks. The prisons aren't big enough to house all of the strange folks in the world. What constitutes strange anyway?

[Lindsey_Mcfarren]

Originally Posted by findinghope

lindsey, i understand your concen for your daughter--and you are right to be worried. but to demand of a man at a park to prove that he is the father of one of the children?

i hope he would be showing some odd behavior for you to do that.

Well of course he would have to behave unusual in some way. I would watch them for some time, if he never interacted with anyone else, especially if he produced a camera, I would be concerned. If there was a police officer I would rather they speak to the man but I have no problem doing it myself if one is not handy.

I don't think this has become hysteria at all. I don't think enough is done. Maybe it needs to be refocused but MORE needs to be done to protect our children, not less. The reality is that children are MORE likely to be abused by someone who is known to them rather then a stranger at the park. All too often families close their eyes because they can't accept that someone they know is that sick.

I'm not shy about protecting my daughter, I almost punched a man who was LEERING at my daughter at a convenience store.