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Old 09-14-2019, 10:37 AM
 
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Maybe not ridiculous, but I was punished many times for things my younger sister did and she told them it was me. Parents didn’t understand me very well because I was always the rule-follower, afraid of my shadow. I didn’t dare do anything wrong.

As adults my sister once told me she could never understand why our parents were so hard on me! Because you blamed me for all the crap you pulled!
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Old 09-18-2019, 08:32 AM
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Location: Atlanta, GA
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Maybe not ridiculous, but I was punished many times for things my younger sister did and she told them it was me. Parents didn’t understand me very well because I was always the rule-follower, afraid of my shadow. I didn’t dare do anything wrong.

As adults my sister once told me she could never understand why our parents were so hard on me! Because you blamed me for all the crap you pulled!
If I had a sister that did that, I'd be calling her a lair 24/7/365, and rightfully so. As for being punished for something I didn't do, that never happened. Well, maybe once or twice at school. I never allowed it to happen. The adults in my life knew that if I was unfairly being punished for something I didn't do, they'd ALL be in a world of hurt. Didn't matter if it was school or home - I had zero tolerance for that bullcrap. Ever hear a kid shrieking? Not merely screaming, but actual shrieking? If you haven't, consider yourself lucky - it's not something you want to experience. Yes, I was that kid....lol. And it happened very, very rarely - because once you hear a kid shriek, you DO NOT want to hear that again. Trust me on that one. It'd been downright impossible to stuff me in a wooden box in a daycare center - they'd be calling 911 instead.

I think I had a soft, easy childhood because of my strong-willed personality. I actually took my parents to task for being less-than-perfect parents...lol. Teachers too. I was very, very good at laying on the guilt trip. And I'm not ashamed of it in the least.

I just wish all kids could be like me - there would be a whole lot less pain in the world if the children refused to roll over and "take it."
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Old 09-18-2019, 08:51 AM
 
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If I had a sister that did that, I'd be calling her a lair 24/7/365, and rightfully so. As for being punished for something I didn't do, that never happened. Well, maybe once or twice at school. I never allowed it to happen. The adults in my life knew that if I was unfairly being punished for something I didn't do, they'd ALL be in a world of hurt. Didn't matter if it was school or home - I had zero tolerance for that bullcrap. Ever hear a kid shrieking? Not merely screaming, but actual shrieking? If you haven't, consider yourself lucky - it's not something you want to experience. Yes, I was that kid....lol. And it happened very, very rarely - because once you hear a kid shriek, you DO NOT want to hear that again. Trust me on that one. It'd been downright impossible to stuff me in a wooden box in a daycare center - they'd be calling 911 instead.

I think I had a soft, easy childhood because of my strong-willed personality. I actually took my parents to task for being less-than-perfect parents...lol. Teachers too. I was very, very good at laying on the guilt trip. And I'm not ashamed of it in the least.

I just wish all kids could be like me - there would be a whole lot less pain in the world if the children refused to roll over and "take it."
Did you forget that you're talking to grown-ups here? Good god....
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Old 09-18-2019, 10:25 AM
 
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Me and my 4 siblings got spankings and grounded for a weekend because someone knocked over the badminton net.


Yeah.
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Old 09-18-2019, 10:44 AM
 
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Me and my 4 siblings got spankings and grounded for a weekend because someone knocked over the badminton net.


Yeah.
I have 2 (adult) sons. That wouldn’t be a blip on my radar.

A friend of younger son was punished by his mom for “doing homework in an inappropriate place” (their car, while waiting for kids’ baseball game to start). My son couldn’t believe it.
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Old 09-18-2019, 10:53 AM
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I have 2 (adult) sons. That wouldn’t be a blip on my radar.

A friend of younger son was punished by his mom for “doing homework in an inappropriate place” (their car, while waiting for kids’ baseball game to start). My son couldn’t believe it.
A kid being punished for actually doing homework?? Good grief, Charlie Brown.

What is it with parents and ridiculous punishments? And why do kids sit back and take it? I thought this was 2019, the age of parents being their child's best friend. Didn't abusive / unfair punishments go out of style, like 40 years ago?

If I was punished for doing homework in the car, know what my reaction would be? Yep, I'd refuse to ever do homework again. Or do anything at school for that matter. See how long it'd take for them to come back to their senses.
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Old 09-18-2019, 10:57 AM
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Did you forget that you're talking to grown-ups here? Good god....
No, I'm talking to any child that might happen upon this thread. My message to them is this: You CAN fight back, and you should. Parental child abuse needs to be fought against tooth and nail, scorched-earth style. Both children and adults need to do everything in their power to eradicate child abuse and unfair treatment of children.
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Old 09-19-2019, 07:54 AM
 
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My parents were mostly softies but we were grounded a few times for watching 'Love Boat' and 'Three's Company.' My mom deemed these shows too scandalous and risqué. My mother could never follow through on her punishments though and so grounded for a day meant only two hours max, and then we were right back out the door playing with our friends. When crossing my dad, he didn't ground, but banished the infractor to the side yard to pull up weeds.
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Old Today, 11:29 AM
 
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one time recently i came very close to getting kicked out of the house for watching a youtube video that had profanity in it.
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Old Today, 11:46 AM
 
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This did NOT involve parents, but.....

In 1965 or early 1966, the Vietnam War was still rather new, and still supported by most Americans. In fact, "Ballad of the Green Berets" was the #1 hit song of the year . Our high school in suburban Maryland had everyone for part of a day, attend a program in the gymnasium called "Honor America Day" with patriotic speeches and songs. One of the "Up With People" traveling folk bands performed.

Anyhow, a Senior, Honor student girl from an intellectual family, wore a pin reading "U.S. Withdraw from VietNam". She was escorted out of the assembly and then locked in a closet by our (male) Vice-Principal until she agreed to remove her pin. She never did, and finally her mother came to school and demanded she be let out of the closet. The incident was written up in the Washington Star newspaper.

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