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This is just another thread so that people who are "old school" or people without children can dump on "new liberal parents" and how horrible the next generation is going to be raised by these people.
This is just another thread so that people who are "old school" or people without children can dump on "new liberal parents" and how horrible the next generation is going to be raised by these people.
Probably.
I always suspect that people who start these things don't actually HAVE children.
I actually do not know any "child run" families. I do know a few that are more "child's feelings/wishes/needs" taken into consideration in family decisions (like vacations & meals) than when I was younger but no "child run" families.
This is just another thread so that people who are "old school" or people without children can dump on "new liberal parents" and how horrible the next generation is going to be raised by these people.
No, it's about a lot more than that, because the kids of the members of the previous generation who bought into this parenting "style" are now adults, and they're not able to cope with life at all. They don't have basic life skills. This is not the "same old, same old" rant.
These threads arent started by people who say "my kid is out of control, ive let her do whatever she wants and now (aghast) she does whatever she wants!" its people who say "i dont have kids but my friends kids...." or "i might be old fashioned by my neighbors kids...". without more information im going to go ahead and stand by my first response and enjoy my happy healthy children in my somewhat child centered home where one look from me makes my son backtrack and rethink his rude sentence while still respecting him as a person.
I actually do not know any "child run" families. I do know a few that are more "child's feelings/wishes/needs" taken into consideration in family decisions (like vacations & meals) than when I was younger but no "child run" families.
That's usually how a healthy family dynamic progresses and supports autonomy. Each person has a voice.
My husband and I kept in mind our kids had voices. We validated and often let them have leeway...since it was all of us together that made a family. Can't ever recall saying ..my house MY rules. Just sounds so unwelcoming and militant. It was our house and our wellbeing ...sometimes my kids made some fun rules. I gotta give em credit for the summertime camp outs in our yard..under the stars.
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I took the OP to mean cases where the children are what is called "Parentified". That is, they have an incapable parent and so they do the household chores like cooking and laundry at the age of 8, get themselves up in the morning alone and get on the elementary school bus with a lunch they packed, take care of younger siblings, and cover for mom who is either not at home or unwilling/unable to get out of bed.
And yes, I do know families like that. Very sad.
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