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Old 08-26-2019, 01:05 PM
 
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That was my gut. I do believe it happened once before but at that point I did not think ring and run. Second time this has happened, and based on the chain of events, it was 100% ring and run. And considering they aren't "friends" as in they aren't coming by to ask my child to hang out, I have to wonder if my child is being targeted to make a mockery of? This is why I debate on how to proceed.

Just wondering, is your child a girl, and these are boys doing the ding dong ditch thing? If so, maybe it's because one of the boys likes your daughter? (If we're talking about a daughter.)


Just curious, have you talked to your child about it?
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Old 08-26-2019, 01:08 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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The thing is I know my home is being chosen because my child lives there, based on the kids doing it. They aren't true friends, despite being the same age. This is why I know it's being done directed towards my child, not so much to bug or annoy me or the adults in the home. So while I find your way of dealing so amusing, I feel there is more to the reasoning behind it and wonder if I should address it now somehow.
What does your child say about it? Is s/he aware?

Do you think it's being done in an antagonistic way?
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Old 08-26-2019, 01:10 PM
 
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I can't tell you what to do. I know that when my kids were getting picked on I wanted to jump in with teeth bared. I also knew that they'd have to learn to deal with these things on their own eventually.

Hurts like heck to watch your kid get hurt. I was always available in the wings if they needed me and they knew that but I didn't jump to every chance.

Just crossed my fingers and kept reminding myself that I wanted them to grow into strong, resilient kids who could deal with problematic people.
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Old 08-26-2019, 01:21 PM
 
Location: Denver CO
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The thing is I know my home is being chosen because my child lives there, based on the kids doing it. They aren't true friends, despite being the same age. This is why I know it's being done directed towards my child, not so much to bug or annoy me or the adults in the home. So while I find your way of dealing so amusing, I feel there is more to the reasoning behind it and wonder if I should address it now somehow.
This sounds more like bullying and less like a prank. Especially since it's continuing even after you talked to the kids, I would go ahead and talk to the parents. I do not think a school aged child (I am assuming that's the age) has the ability to resolve something like this on their own.
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Old 08-26-2019, 02:24 PM
 
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Well, I know that as a kid it's one thing to play practical jokes or whatnot on each other. Sometimes friends, sometimes not.

Now if we were talking about vandalism or a fight then that's a whole other animal.

But for ding-dong-ditch, contacting the other kids parents....is an extreme escalation.

If you escalate this very very minor thing, it could look really bad starting with other kids thinking your kid runs to mommy and other parents being leery about having their kid interact with yours for fear of what an argument or minor fight between the kids might turn into.
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Old 08-26-2019, 02:25 PM
 
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I'd give the kid's parents a heads up because in addition to being rude, it's not a real smart idea to be ringing random doorbells and harassing people. Not everyone out there is playing with a full deck of cards. If your child was doing this, wouldn't you want to know?

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Old 08-26-2019, 02:30 PM
 
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Is that still a thing kids do? Seriously, with all the video cameras and "ring" apps at the door? Kids gotta be stupid to still be doing that. It's like prank calls - can't get away with that anymore with today's technology.
Also - you do that where I live - people own big dogs and black guns. Might be a suggestion to bring that up to these stupid kids and/or the parents because they just might run into equally stupid home owners.
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Old 08-26-2019, 02:40 PM
 
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I'd repeat this very real story, guy opened the door and shot the kid (claimed later he thought the kid was a burglar)

https://www.palmbeachpost.com/articl...NEWS/812038340
Kid was 16, shooter never did anything more than weekends in jail for a year.
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Old 08-26-2019, 02:48 PM
 
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Is that still a thing kids do? Seriously, with all the video cameras and "ring" apps at the door? Kids gotta be stupid to still be doing that. It's like prank calls - can't get away with that anymore with today's technology.
Also - you do that where I live - people own big dogs and black guns. Might be a suggestion to bring that up to these stupid kids and/or the parents because they just might run into equally stupid home owners.
Yup, exactly. I actually have the video. Yes, ring app. I don't believe they are doing it to random homes, I really don't. I think they are doing it to make a jerk out of my kid if they come out when the bell is rung, to no one being there.
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Old 08-26-2019, 02:51 PM
 
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I'd give the kid's parents a heads up because in addition to being rude, it's not a real smart idea to be ringing random doorbells and harassing people. Not everyone out there is playing with a full deck of cards. If your child was doing this, wouldn't you want to know?

I would but I am not so sure every parent wants to believe their kid is being a jerk. Also, I do worry my child could pay the price if the kids get in trouble and then somehow taunt my kid more so. So another reason I do hesitate to address to the parents. I caught them but did not say "I know what you were doing". So it may not happen again, but it does concern me the mere attempt at making a joke of my child. Little do they know I would never allow my child to answer the door bell at any time, only we do that as the adults in the household.
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