Not sure what to do about son and his father.

[KaraG]

Originally Posted by RamenAddict

The meanest, most ruthless attorneys out there aren’t often the best attorneys. They typically annoy the judges more than they actually accomplish something and cost a lot of money with their antics that could be used for the kids. That isn’t to say that the OP doesn’t need a better attorney, but assuming that the meanest, most ruthless attorney is the most effective one is usually a bad strategy.

This is true and even the best attorney can lose if the judge wants it to go the other way as the OP found out before. It's happened to our family as well. That's why I went with the tactic of trying to build up their relationship with their dad, despite his shortcomings, which are more obvious now that they are grown and have their own children.

[LowonLuck]

Originally Posted by KaraG

This is true and even the best attorney can lose if the judge wants it to go the other way as the OP found out before. It's happened to our family as well. That's why I went with the tactic of trying to build up their relationship with their dad, despite his shortcomings, which are more obvious now that they are grown and have their own children.

I am going to try this tactic. His father tells a vastly different story than son tells me. One is a known liar. The younger one might be playing us against each other, because we don’t communicate. I don’t communicate with his father because I don’t trust him. He has habits of using anything I say, against me.

[Roselvr]

Originally Posted by LowonLuck

I am going to try this tactic. His father tells a vastly different story than son tells me. One is a known liar. The younger one might be playing us against each other, because we don’t communicate. I don’t communicate with his father because I don’t trust him. He has habits of using anything I say, against me.

I really don't have a suggestion after rereading except for that shared room. The paintball incident would be something you as a parent should discuss with him but your attorney can sure use it to your advantage with taking him back to court to stop or lesson visits now that he's 8 and has sports you can prove he plays that he'd miss by going. Then add in the prior abuse to the paint ball incident. My question, did the teen he rooms with go? What team was he on? I'd assume on the team with your son, he was trying to take both kids down cause he's that kind of person unless they really didn't have a spot on the team for him after the 2 kids but why didn't the teen go to the other team? Cause your ex wants to hurt kids still... Find out more and use it with your attorney.

Then see how many visits would he be left with after sports takes them.

One day your son will be bigger to kick his a$$...