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Old 09-28-2019, 01:29 AM
 
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Yesterday around 3:00 PM my daughter got pulled over for speeding, she knows to show license and registration and after she got pulled over as the cop was walking up my daughter was going through her purse to get her license, but while she was doing it the cop yelled "Hey! Put your hands on the wheel!" she was very startled and did but got upset and started crying and the officer explained to get her license and registration which she did, but she said the officer wasn't nice and had a very authoritarian tone.

He came back and gave her a ticket and told her to slow down and left and she came home in tears. I understand speeding is a crime, I am not disputing that, but is it excessive for him to yell at her just for looking for her license in her purse?

 
Old 09-28-2019, 01:51 AM
 
Location: interior Alaska
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Well, it's a cop. His job is to control the situation. In this case he did so with his voice rather than with a gun, at least. Now she knows how to behave correctly at a traffic stop, which might save her life someday, given the paranoid style of policing that currently en vogue in the US.
 
Old 09-28-2019, 05:11 AM
 
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No, not excessive.
 
Old 09-28-2019, 05:28 AM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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No, sorry, but it's not excessive. While it would probably be the first thing most females do, grab their purse for their ID, he couldn't be sure why she grabbed her purse. She learned a valuable lesson. It's also made me think about my own future actions should I be pulled over--wait to get my ID until asked and then explain what I'm doing.
 
Old 09-28-2019, 05:33 AM
 
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Very reasonable response by the officer. If he couldn’t see her hands and she was going into her bag he wouldn’t know what she was doing. Safety first.
 
Old 09-28-2019, 06:16 AM
 
Location: USA
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Well, it’s a police officer’s job to verbally control the situation. They can’t read the minds of other people why they’re digging around in their purse or bag. Fyi, registration supposed to be in glove box, not in purse
 
Old 09-28-2019, 06:44 AM
 
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Getting a ticket for the first time, for people who are rule followers is typically a little traumatic.

During the traffic stop, you can sense the inequality of the relationship, and it's a little humiliating. Authoritarian tones do feel humiliating. Especially for those who don't usually experience them.

Did they not teach her in drivers ed what to do when a cop stops you? Pretty much rule number one is don't be rifling through a bag or reaching under the carseat. Show your hands and be still.
 
Old 09-28-2019, 07:18 AM
 
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Well, itís a police officerís job to verbally control the situation. They canít read the minds of other people why theyíre digging around in their purse or bag. Fyi, registration supposed to be in glove box, not in purse
The registration belongs wherever the owner thinks it belongs. In Texas, we don't have to carry the registration at all, unless it's a commercial vehicle. I've never seen the point in asking for registration in other states.
 
Old 09-28-2019, 07:54 AM
 
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The registration belongs wherever the owner thinks it belongs. In Texas, we don't have to carry the registration at all, unless it's a commercial vehicle. I've never seen the point in asking for registration in other states.
There's definitely states that ask for registration. Not sure which ones.


In any case, next time, leave the insurance and ownership in a clear ziplock bag and keep it in the glove compartment. Whenever a cop pulls you over, literally grab it and have it read. Cops actually like it when you do that.

Now, in the US, the level of paranoia for cops is off the charts. No different than the TSA basically treating a 5 year old like a terrorist when they do their search.
 
Old 09-28-2019, 08:14 AM
 
Location: Greenville, SC
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He came back and gave her a ticket and told her to slow down and left and she came home in tears. I understand speeding is a crime, I am not disputing that, but is it excessive for him to yell at her just for looking for her license in her purse?
No. She could have been reaching for a gun.
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