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Old 10-03-2009, 03:58 PM
 
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ok im from cali
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Old 09-09-2011, 07:54 PM
 
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Cas was involved in a case of custody between my daughter and my
granddaughters father.
Due to my daughter having a psycological disorder custody was granted to dad.
When cas was involved dad let us see grand daughter and call her once
a week. But access was through CAS supervised.
Once court was over he started to cut us off slowly to the point
absolutely no phone convos and granddaughter gets punished if she
contacts us in any way.
Granddaughter is in Hastings county and I am in Peterborough. When dad
got custody she was 12, she is now 13. She is repeatedly finding was
to contact me about her safety which is an issue as she is being
scared and threatened not to speak to any member of my family or she
is grounded and will never see us again.

I call cas and they speak to her and dad and his girlfriend and they
make it as if it is a teen thing. She called me on my cell while I was
away on holidays 3 weeks ago hysterical at this point I was still able
to speak to her by phone but monitored calls. The call got
disconnected so I called cas in Belleville as I could not get to her
fast enough. They questioned her and dad and blamed it on her stealing
a mascara from the dads girlfriend so she was grounded and upset. I
later found out they have been smoking pot with my granddaughter and
at one point would not let her have any pot so she stole it from them
and this being the reason she was grounded.

Because I called cas They have now blocked my number from there cells
and got the house phone disconnected so granddaughter can not contact
me for help. I have always been her safe place even when she was with
mom.

She then was left alone with dads girlfriend on last weekend so he
could go camping. She had a friend of hers text me in middle of the
night saying my granddaughter was in danger as the girlfreind was
drinking and being violent and my granddaughter was scared and trying
to text dad on girlfreinds cell and got caught and grounded by
girlfriend. I contacted dad by text as I felt he needed to be aware
what was happening and no reply. however the communication by text
with granddaughters friend stopped abruptly.

I then found out yesterday granddaughter is no longer allowed near her
friend anymore and has been grounded for 2 months due to asking again
for help to get out.

Granddaughter again found way to contact me and she called cas on her
own again yesterday asking them to go to school and talk to her, she
told them she could not return home as she was being mentally scared
and feared her safety. She asked me to bring her to my house in
peterborough to live on several occasions and I certaily would love
to. But I am told I could be charged with kid napping.

Cas has still left her in the dads home after all this and more. She
is 13 and does she not have a say. How illegal would it be for me to
bring her to my home.? Please advise asap as I will if I can.

Please help my granddaughter, cas certainly don't care
Thank You
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Old 09-10-2011, 06:07 AM
 
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Granddaughter again found way to contact me and she called cas on her own again yesterday asking them to go to school and talk to her, she told them she could not return home as she was being mentally scared and feared her safety. She asked me to bring her to my house in peterborough to live on several occasions and I certaily would love
to. But I am told I could be charged with kid napping.

Cas has still left her in the dads home after all this and more. She
is 13 and does she not have a say. How illegal would it be for me to
bring her to my home.? Please advise asap as I will if I can.
I would make another report with CAS. I can't promise it will do any good, but in cases of he said/she said, if they start getting more reports, they may investigate more thoroughly. I would also go to her school. Ask to sit down and talk with the counselor and the principal. Explain your concerns and explain that you don't have custody. Explain that although you have no power, this is what your granddaughter is telling you. Ask them to keep her on the radar. School employees are required by law to file a report if they have reason to suspect something is wrong. Also email her teachers and let them know what is going on.
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Old 11-19-2011, 02:53 PM
 
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hey im 12 i will be 13 in may i was wondering what age u have to be to pick who u want to live with in colorado?
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Old 11-19-2011, 02:57 PM
 
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hey im 12 i will be 13 in may i was wondering what age u have to be to pick who u want to live with in colorado? please help
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Old 11-20-2011, 07:31 PM
 
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I have never understood this issue. I have four children, divorced their Dad, when the oldest was 15. The kids stayed with me. Until one was out of control, he went to his Dad. My kids have a great Dad. As my kids grew older, they spent more time with him, his career was over, mine was starting, we let them choose what they wanted, and never made it a control or money issue. It is about what is best for the family. I was okay when my teen daughter went to live with her Dad, that is an age thing. He is a great Dad, she loves him, he loves her..why should I mess that up? It did not mean she did not love me.
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Old 04-10-2012, 03:00 PM
 
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I believe it's 12 for the child has the say, but "normal" judges do the best for the child.
Sorry if I missed a future clarification, but can you confirm the age for custodial choice by a minor in Maine?
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Old 02-28-2017, 07:27 AM
 
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I want to go live with my mom. I get in a lot af trouble with my dad. My dad and mom got divorced,and me a 11 year old and my bro a 10 year old want to run away to my mom. Help us . We want to go. I know the way. We got the money. I would call my mom but I do not have her number. I have her gmail secretly. I do not have a phone. I am doing this on a school iPad. Help me!
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Old 02-28-2017, 07:57 AM
 
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I want to go live with my mom. I get in a lot af trouble with my dad. My dad and mom got divorced,and me a 11 year old and my bro a 10 year old want to run away to my mom. Help us . We want to go. I know the way. We got the money. I would call my mom but I do not have her number. I have her gmail secretly. I do not have a phone. I am doing this on a school iPad. Help me!
Go talk to your school counselor.
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