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Hi, I am 19 years old and I enjoy occasionally having a glass of wine or a drink, but have never once became intoxicated. I had three 1 oz bottles of vodka, one was empty, in my closet and my younger sister "stumbled" upon them and told my mother who is, in my opinion making a mountain out of a mole hill. She freaked out because I had, to her knowledge, 1 drink. She is busy trying to develop some kind of punishment and is acting like I deliberately broke her trust and what not. In my opinion, it is not a big deal. I do not go out and get drunk, I don't party, I simply had a drink.
What is your opinion, what would you do if you found out your 19 year old, adult daughter had a drink?
Hi, I am 19 years old and I enjoy occasionally having a glass of wine or a drink, but have never once became intoxicated. I had three 1 oz bottles of vodka, one was empty, in my closet and my younger sister "stumbled" upon them and told my mother who is, in my opinion making a mountain out of a mole hill. She freaked out because I had, to her knowledge, 1 drink. She is busy trying to develop some kind of punishment and is acting like I deliberately broke her trust and what not. In my opinion, it is not a big deal. I do not go out and get drunk, I don't party, I simply had a drink.
What is your opinion, what would you do if you found out your 19 year old, adult daughter had a drink?
Where did you get the 1-oz bottles of vodka? Where do you get the wine when you drink it?
Do you have any alcoholism in your family? Did you mix that vodka you drank with anything or just drink it straight? If it's no big deal can you just stop drinking period so as to not worry your mother? Does the thought of not drinking anymore make you feel a little anxious? How long have you been drinking? Do you usually drink alone?
Last edited by laysayfair; 04-29-2008 at 12:03 AM..
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if it's no big deal, why were you hiding them in your closet?
when you hide something it's because you know it's wrong--also when you do something in secret--it's not a good sign.
it's the same as hording/hiding food which developes into an eating disorder.
the US has such a problem with underage drinking and over drunkenness during the early 20's.
i dont know the stats in other countries, but i am guessing most countries dont have it as bad as here.
my parents never forbade me to drink, and so i was allowed to taste things. i never developed a taste for it and so i dont drink at all.
my brother was obviously raised in the same way, and he drinks socially, but does not get drunk every time he goes out. he will usually have some wine with dinner and maybe a couple of drinks while at a club.
i wonder if the fact that the parents are so adament that their children not drink, is making the kids go overboard...
I would do the same thing your mother is doing. Underage drinking is a serious issue and the fact that you're whining about your mother actually being a parent and taking a stand on this shows that you are not mature enough to handle the consequences of your actions and shouldn't be drinking in the first place. And in my opinion-you are setting a horrible example for your little sister. You want to be grown then start by abiding by your mother's rules in her house, the laws surrounding drinking, and take your punishment without crying about how unfair it is.
For the record, I didn't drink before I turned 21 because I wasn't "allowed" to. I think it's dumb that an 18 year old can go off to war and kill somebody, but can't have a beer at the end of the day, but just because I think that way doesn't change the fact that that is how it is for now. And I'm just as hard on my underage brother and sister surrounding this issue.
Would you be mad at her if she wanted to punish you for driving the car at 15 because you thought you could handle it and didn't see the need for a liscence?
I don't blame your mom for freaking out because that's what parents do. You'll need to abide by what she decides to do because you're living in her house. Apologize to her and reassure her that you won't be drinking until you're 21.
If you honestly believe drinking isn't a problem for you, that's great. But it's a bit worrisome that you had vodka hidden in your closet and apparently drank a bottle by yourself. That's not really a healthy way to be drinking. Be very honest with yourself and careful as you take these last steps toward adulthood. You're almost there--don't screw it up now!
I think it depends on the laws in your state. If the drinking age is 21 and you are drinking in your parents house, you are risking them being charged and put in jail.
Hi, I am 19 years old and I enjoy occasionally having a glass of wine or a drink, but have never once became intoxicated. I had three 1 oz bottles of vodka, one was empty, in my closet and my younger sister "stumbled" upon them and told my mother who is, in my opinion making a mountain out of a mole hill. She freaked out because I had, to her knowledge, 1 drink. She is busy trying to develop some kind of punishment and is acting like I deliberately broke her trust and what not. In my opinion, it is not a big deal. I do not go out and get drunk, I don't party, I simply had a drink.
What is your opinion, what would you do if you found out your 19 year old, adult daughter had a drink?
Hey, if drinking before 21 is against house rules, then it's against the rules. Period. If you live in your parents' house, then you follow their rules.
The telling phrase in your OP is "to her knowledge." That's exactly the point. She has no idea how much you're drinking, with whom, and where. The fact that you're hiding hooch in your closet tells her that you've got a bigger problem than you may admit to. So she's fully justified in being concerned.
If you really wanted a better response to this issue, you should have gone to her and discussed this before it became a controversy in the household.
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