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Do you want 16-year-old boys with uncontrollable hormones groping her experimentally and then bragging to their buddies? Or is it better to have a guy who is no longer trying to prove things to himself and his peer group. A 24-yo might treat her with respect and be protective of her, Even better, a 40-yo.
This is only partly hyperbole. If she has outgrown her classmates, where is she to go?
Wednesday my 16 year old daughter ran away and left me a note. I was able to find proof on her computer she was taking a flight to visit 24 year old man. Thursday the police were able to take her into custody at the gate in the airport. She's home and I feel very lucky we saved her. Friday I am in her room and find a painting this guy made of her (not sexual) and 2 photos of him - which I confiscate. My daughter freaked out and came downstairs screaming. My husband sided with her, saying she deserved some privacy and respect. My feeling is she had too much privacy and that got her into this situation in the first place. I don't want her holding on to these things and having something concrete to keep her attachment going. I was forced into returning the painting and photos top her. I feel it is WRONG.
What do other parents think about this?
If you know his name you should call the police. I know that as a kid it can seem like you are oppressing her, but she is obviously not able to judge for herself the appropriate people to be talking to on the internet. Right now she doesn't know that the man is really just a pedophile. I've been in her shoes and I wish I had a parent to turn him in to the cops.
Not only should you take the pictures, you should put parental controls on all of the internet connections. It's not that she did something wrong, it's just that she is not yet an adult that can make mature decisions and she obviously still needs your guidance.
Her father, I'm sorry to say, is WRONG. He is making her think that it is appropriate for a 24 year old man to be sending her pictures of himself and gifts. This is NOT appropriate. I know it is hard to say no to teens because they are so willful, but I think it is better to stand up to them.
Do you want 16-year-old boys with uncontrollable hormones groping her experimentally and then bragging to their buddies? Or is it better to have a guy who is no longer trying to prove things to himself and his peer group. A 24-yo might treat her with respect and be protective of her, Even better, a 40-yo.
This is only partly hyperbole. If she has outgrown her classmates, where is she to go?
Yes I would! I would not WANT either but would choose the 16 year old over the 24 yr old pervert.
And by the way, the 24 year old is not trying to prove things to his peer group because he's obviously NOT PART OF IT!
This thread is innapropriate and any of you "men" who are thinking/posting that this is ok, should have an eye kept on you AT ALL TIMES!
Yes I would! I would not WANT either but would choose the 16 year old over the 24 yr old pervert.
And by the way, the 24 year old is not trying to prove things to his peer group because he's obviously NOT PART OF IT!
This thread is innapropriate and any of you "men" who are thinking/posting that this is ok, should have an eye kept on you AT ALL TIMES!
Yes! Totally agree with you. A man who wants to date a 16 year old has some issues. And from my experience usually go for young girls to feel powerful.
Wednesday my 16 year old daughter ran away and left me a note. I was able to find proof on her computer she was taking a flight to visit 24 year old man. Thursday the police were able to take her into custody at the gate in the airport. She's home and I feel very lucky we saved her. Friday I am in her room and find a painting this guy made of her (not sexual) and 2 photos of him - which I confiscate. My daughter freaked out and came downstairs screaming. My husband sided with her, saying she deserved some privacy and respect. My feeling is she had too much privacy and that got her into this situation in the first place. I don't want her holding on to these things and having something concrete to keep her attachment going. I was forced into returning the painting and photos top her. I feel it is WRONG.
What do other parents think about this?
Thank god you intervened. It's so important parents keep an eye on their kids and this computer stuff.
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The guy could be just a nice guy, those relationships happens all the time, but with laws they have now, those relationships are kept secret. If they really love one another, I would have no problem with the relationship. Maybe you need to talk about it and trying to learn about this guy, be open minded without judging him. He might one day be your son-in-law.
Are you kidding me? A 24 year old man who would consort with a sixteen year old is defective. If there wasn't something wrong with him, he would be in relationships with women his own age.
Are you kidding me? A 24 year old man who would consort with a sixteen year old is defective. If there wasn't something wrong with him, he would be in relationships with women his own age.
Exactly! When I was sixteen, I thought it was ok. Now I look back and I realize how indecent it was! I have a 16 year old sister and a 25 year old male friend. Both are mature yet the 25 year old agrees it would be terribly WRONG! He dates WOMEN because he is a MAN. End of story
People connect with other people for all sorts of reasons---which are not necessarily exactly the same as yours.
I was once in a restaurant with two female traveling companions, who noticed another well-dressed couple. It was a very handsome man in his 50s and a shapeless woman near his age, with wash-and-wear hair and sensible shoes. One of my friends said to the other "Why would a hunk like that have such a frumpy woman?" I replied "Maybe he likes her."
People's relationships do not always accord with what bystanders wish they were.
People connect with other people for all sorts of reasons---which are not necessarily exactly the same as yours.
I was once in a restaurant with two female traveling companions, who noticed another well-dressed couple. It was a very handsome man in his 50s and a shapeless woman near his age, with wash-and-wear hair and sensible shoes. One of my friends said to the other "Why would a hunk like that have such a frumpy woman?" I replied "Maybe he likes her."
People's relationships do not always accord with what bystanders wish they were.
Sigh. Some people just don't get it and should be arrested.
Sigh. Some people just don't get it and should be arrested.
Yes, arrest everyone who doesn't get it.
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