daughter 16, has online relationship with 24 year old (party, baby, girls)
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PRIVACY my Lilly White Patootie......raising two g'kids.....boy 16 girl 13....they will have all the privacy they want when they live on their own......my house, my rules.
We have very close times and we have times where she won't talk to me, like now. She says she loves me very much and the hardest thing about her plan to go visit him was knowing how it would hurt me.
PRIVACY my Lilly White Patootie......raising two g'kids.....boy 16 girl 13....they will have all the privacy they want when they live on their own......my house, my rules.
Thank you - that's my feeling. She had privacy, and she abused the privilege. Until I feel I can trust her again I don't think she has the right to question what I do.
The hard part for me is that her Dad agreed with her....we're not talking right now either.
Im no parent but I would of done the same thing. He could be a serial killer and she is only 16! He is waay too old for her even if they knew eachother in my opinon. And not to freak you out but if they were to have intercourse with eachother then he would be sent to prison and put on a sexual predator list for the rest of his life.
Either make sure there is some sort of parental controls on her computer or take the computer away from her and then inform her that until she is 18 years old and living on her own, she has to live by your rules, not hers, and inform your husband that he is shrinking away from his parental responsibilities, I'm just trying to figure out what kind of a father would let his daughter get away with something like this, especially after what has recently happened, does he not realize that there could have been a very real possibility that she could've ended up dead or doesn't he care, I don't think he's living up to his responsibilities as a father and a parent.
My father would have killed the guy and after it was all said and done, I probably would have been wishing for my boyfriends fate! I can not imagine the fear that ran through your veins when you realized she was gone and on a plane!!
Have you considered family counseling? It sounds like you and your husband may need to talk to someone about ways to coparent more effectively if he is encouraging a relationship with someone that helped your underage daughter runaway and if he was unable to show a united front with you.
Good luck. I am so sorry to hear stories like this.
privacy is very important for a teen and she needs it but she needs to be safe also. i would say give her privacy but dont let her have the computer right now..let her have the pictures. the computer is a dangerous place for young teens and right now shes very emotional and a computer isnt the right thing for her.
A 24 year old man lets (or encourages) a 16 year old to run away from home, get on a plane and come see him. Noone who meant her any good would do such a thing. Why the hell didn't he get on a plane and come introduce himself? He's a predator. Nothing he has done is what someone who is concerned about your daughters safety, well-being and relationship with her parents would do. Your husband is shirking his responsibilities in the name of peace in the house (to keep your daughter from carrying-on). Can I ask where your daughter got the money for the plane ticket?
As some have said...the guy could indeed be a nice guy!
But that's just BS if you ask me...what's a 24yo guy doing trying to meet an 16 year old girl...that's just ridiculous!
I'm sure she needs privacy as any young teen would, but seriously keep a very close on eye on her(without her knowing)
You could've just prevented a very bad thing, nice guy or not...
There's no reason a 24 yo should be lurking the net for 16yo's.
To me, it seems really, really freaky. The fact she just picked up and left without telling you, her legal guardian about her whereabouts for the next few days...this guy must have some hold on her. And the guy must be some creeper also, knowing that she was 16, telling her to surreptitiously leave on airplane to 'visit him'. Wow...that's not cool.
You were absolutely correct in doing what you needed to do. You're still the legal guardian for another two years, so I don't really think it's even a matter of privacy. I don't think you need me telling you, but if you needed to hear it...
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