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Old 05-25-2008, 07:22 AM
 
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i must sound ancient, but i am seriously young. i am very old fashioned and romantic so i never called a boy. but when did it start that little girls started to become so forward with boys? i mean a 9yo girl calling a boy late at night without her parents noticing? i am not letting my son give out his number! that is it!
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Old 05-25-2008, 08:19 AM
 
Location: SF Bay Area
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We are moving out of state next month....my 12 yr old is going from a private school with 36 kids in the 6th grade to a public school (though good one) with 400 6th graders. I am now very, very nervous.....
Your middle school will probably have dance rules. Most of the middle schools around here do, and griding (and other words describing it) are not allowed. There are lots of parents/staff supervising the dance and it doesn't get a chance to happen.

However, dances for middle school kids are occasionally held here at the local Rec Center and the school rules don't apply. While I'm comfortable with my kids attending our school's dances, where rules are clear and it's limited to just students at our school, I'm not comfortable with the dances at the Rec Center. So they don't go (and it's not a big deal with them because their friends don't go, either).
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Old 05-25-2008, 11:19 AM
 
Location: San Antonio
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inspected g'daughters cell phone last night.....found a txt message from a guy askin her "so, ya gonna let me hit it?" [I may be older n dirt but even I know what that means....] fortunately for her she replied "NO" so she is still among the living....altho scarred for life because she has to live "Cellphoneless" for a VERRRRY long time.....
I'd be tracking down that young man's parents and letting them know about his behavior.
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Old 05-25-2008, 12:36 PM
 
Location: Manitoba
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That is not that recent. I remember some of that in the early and mid 90s with Eurodance in middle school. Some of those videos, young teens were watching back and listening to sexual words in those songs back then would have drove my mom up the wall. (i was 13 back then in the early 90s and that is when I started listening to that stuff). So I don't think it is that new (at least in Europe), or maybe it is just starting to show its nose in the US.
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Old 05-26-2008, 11:44 AM
 
Location: Kingman AZ
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I'd be tracking down that young man's parents and letting them know about his behavior.
Wife wouldnt let me do that....I am ....somewhat outspoken.....then I turned my back and SHE did it.....
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Old 05-27-2008, 06:17 AM
 
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I never thought I would consider myself old-fashioned, or to use the phrases my parent's used such as "in my day" but times have changed so much since I was a teen of the seventies that I find myself using these words often. For example, unless you live in the Biblebelt, do you have any idea what is going on at high school dances? The trend now is something called grinding and it is the normal thing to do now. Boy behind girl rubbing up against her. Kids dance alone or with friends and if you see someone that you want to "dance" with you go up and they give you the nod of ok or no. If ok, you proceed to grind...with total strangers!!!!! Girls come up to the boys now and ask if they want to make out, not just dance! My son went to a big dance last night with about 800 local kids from middle school through high school held for charity, but the main the event is knowing you will make out with strangers. Five girls invited my son to make out. I'm afraid to ask what make out means...that meaning might have changed also!! I'll ask when he gets up. My son is only 14 and this is going on with middle school girls too! Mind you we do not live in a trashy area, but a suburb of Boston in an area with some of the best high schools in the state but none of this factors in with this situation. It's all teens everywhere! I don't even think they know how to dance anymore!? And the schools don't do anything to stop this behaviour. I guess as long as there are no fights, drugs or drinking they are fine with it. What is going on????

that "bible belt" statement was mildly offensive to me, seeing that i live in the bible belt (oklahoma). i know what grinding is (i'm 24). i call it a perverse, bastardized derivative of "dance".. and i don't live in a trashy area, either. i live in a suburban area & am a pretty well cultured, educated individual. i have also lived abroad........... so i'm not sure what you mean by 'unless you live in the bible belt' (which is 2 words, btw)... -_-

as for your son grinding... lol it's the 'in' thing to do these days (hence the reason you'll never catch me at a club). if you want him to learn how to dance, why not enroll him in ballroom dancing classes or latin dancing classes or something? if you want him to be refined & such, you might as well start making him do things that refined people do. ballroom dancing, fencing, learning proper dining etiquette, having an expansive vocabulary (i'd recommend getting him the verbal advantage CD set by Charles Harrington Elster as a good place to start on that one).. also speaking another language would be good for him, too. spanish, chinese, japanese, etc..
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Old 05-27-2008, 07:30 AM
 
Location: in a house
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that "bible belt" statement was mildly offensive to me, seeing that i live in the bible belt (oklahoma). i know what grinding is (i'm 24). i call it a perverse, bastardized derivative of "dance".. and i don't live in a trashy area, either. i live in a suburban area & am a pretty well cultured, educated individual. i have also lived abroad........... so i'm not sure what you mean by 'unless you live in the bible belt' (which is 2 words, btw)... -_-

as for your son grinding... lol it's the 'in' thing to do these days (hence the reason you'll never catch me at a club). if you want him to learn how to dance, why not enroll him in ballroom dancing classes or latin dancing classes or something? if you want him to be refined & such, you might as well start making him do things that refined people do. ballroom dancing, fencing, learning proper dining etiquette, having an expansive vocabulary (i'd recommend getting him the verbal advantage CD set by Charles Harrington Elster as a good place to start on that one).. also speaking another language would be good for him, too. spanish, chinese, japanese, etc..
This wasn't meant as a personal attack on anyone, nor was it posted to get suggestions on self-improvement tips for my son. As my son is a freshman, we are both new to the "dance" trends of high school kids and was innocently asking how this began and why schools allow it. Thank you for the grammar tips.
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Old 05-27-2008, 07:22 PM
 
Location: CA
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that "bible belt" statement was mildly offensive to me, seeing that i live in the bible belt (oklahoma).
That's funny, you were mildly offended by the "bible belt" statement but used it yourself...
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Old 05-27-2008, 07:34 PM
 
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That's funny, you were mildly offended by the "bible belt" statement but used it yourself...
apparently you misread or misunderstood.

the term bible belt isn't offensive. i don't have a problem with that, so that is not the issue, and it wasn't what i was complaining about.

the way the statement the author of the thread made came across was offensive. they said "unless you live in the bible belt", which came across like people in the bible belt are obviously too ignorant/stupid/uneducated/etc to even have any idea about what grinding could possibly be, so they shouldn't even bother trying to understand & that Bostonians are soooo much more educated & etc. that is why i was offended.. and i did not use "unless you live in the bible belt", i quoted it & questioned it, because it was rude (in my opinion). That's why I said "I'm not sure what you meant by 'unless you live in the bible belt'".. I was seriously asking.. Because I wanted to know if it was meant how I read it, or if it was meant another way.

so.... whatever, i guess. roll your eyes all you want. i don't really care & i am done explaining myself.
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Old 05-27-2008, 09:05 PM
 
Location: in a house
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apparently you misread or misunderstood.

the term bible belt isn't offensive. i don't have a problem with that, so that is not the issue, and it wasn't what i was complaining about.

the way the statement the author of the thread made came across was offensive. they said "unless you live in the bible belt", which came across like people in the bible belt are obviously too ignorant/stupid/uneducated/etc to even have any idea about what grinding could possibly be, so they shouldn't even bother trying to understand & that Bostonians are soooo much more educated & etc. that is why i was offended.. and i did not use "unless you live in the bible belt", i quoted it & questioned it, because it was rude (in my opinion). That's why I said "I'm not sure what you meant by 'unless you live in the bible belt'".. I was seriously asking.. Because I wanted to know if it was meant how I read it, or if it was meant another way.

so.... whatever, i guess. roll your eyes all you want. i don't really care & i am done explaining myself.
Sorry you took my statement so defensively instead of the way I meant it. I can't believe everything that you read into that statement and how off base you are. What I meant was that that kind of behaviour would not fly in highly religious areas and I don't even know if dances in high school are permited because I have heard of schools in areas that forbid school dances. I hope we are done now and hopefully can get back on topic.
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