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I no longer believe what she says. Therefore if something happened there now is doubt in my mind, because she accused me with no problem. She LIED about me. She accused me, one of two people who had her back through most of her life. I forgave her for sticking me with a $105K student loan debt. My wife and I have bailed her out when she comes up short financially (she has even paid us back for those, not the student loan). The point made is that people (IMO) who decide not to have children ARE lucky. Children can be a blessing, however it can go wrong even when you do the right thing to raise them into responsible adults.
Yeah. I had a daughter like that. Still do, I suppose.
My daughter was never where she was supposed to be, never where she said she was, never had boyfriends who were who they said they were. We had issues involving the police, psychologists, mental hospital, and on and on.
In the end her behavior was a major factor in destroying the family as she cleverly worked one person against the other, making up quotes and misinformation that was intended to keep people from talking to each other. She was truly a world-class liar.
She is now 51. I have not seen her in over 15 years and probably never will again. She has had husbands I never met, children I do not know, and a life that has filled the internet with warnings about her from various authorities.
I feel every bit of your pain - or rather I should say I have felt it. I rarely think about my daughter any more.
In WHAT UNIVERSE should a police officer let alone RETIRED, be expected to corruptly interfere with someone's driving infraction let alone driving on a suspended license.
I'd tell my daughter:
1. NO, what the HELL?
2. He's obviously an idiot, have fun.
3. He's obviously a deceiptful idiot if you didn't know he was driving on suspended license.
4. You're BOTH idiots if you knew and didn't drive instead.
Your wife's an idiot, too, for even THINKING you have the ability to make this disappear. Requiring about several levels of OTHER people doing corruption. How dumb.
For WHAT?
EDIT: That happened to my kid in college. I got him a lawyer and rode his azz for the entire TWO YEARS it took to get straightned out including a six month delay in college which was GENEROUS of the judge to allow him to drive for awhile before the voluntary suspension period were to kick in. And I made him pay every penny from all the tickets that were owed down to the legal and MY PERSONAL expenses.
I think I stopped paying his car insurance then, I forget. But he was on a family policy.
Your wife is the type who can't comprehend that FIXING EVERYTHING creates WEAK IRRESPONSIBLE DUMB ADULTS.
My son NEVER screwed anything like that up again. He was freaking out seeing his whole future go down the drain.
Last edited by huitrecouture; 11-08-2022 at 10:32 AM..
My daughter and I no longer speak to each other. She continues to speak regularly to my wife and her older brother. This past Sunday my Daughter's boyfriend planned a surprise birthday celebration at a restaurant near where we live. My daughter and her boyfriend live in Maryland. My daughter's boyfriend's family lives in Brooklyn. While traveling from Brooklyn to Westchester County where the party was being held (my wife and son were invited I was not) They get stopped at an NYPD checkpoint. My daughter's boyfriend was arrested for driving on a suspended license, so they never made it to the party. My wife and son come home and tell me what happened. My wife then asks if there was anything I could do because I am retired from the NYPD. I told her I'm retired and since our daughter was not the one arrested her boyfriend needed to call his parent's and get a lawyer to help. My wife was disappointed with my answer and I had to remind her that she hasn't spoken to me for over two years and now I'm suddenly supposed to help her boyfriend out??? The entitlement here is nauseating. How can I not let this drama not put a strain on things between my wife and I??
Hard to imagine this incident putting any more strain on things with your wife than your daughter's accusations.
However, you may want to recommend a good attorney that the young man could contact.
Yeah. I had a daughter like that. Still do, I suppose.
My daughter was never where she was supposed to be, never where she said she was, never had boyfriends who were who they said they were. We had issues involving the police, psychologists, mental hospital, and on and on.
In the end her behavior was a major factor in destroying the family as she cleverly worked one person against the other, making up quotes and misinformation that was intended to keep people from talking to each other. She was truly a world-class liar.
She is now 51. I have not seen her in over 15 years and probably never will again. She has had husbands I never met, children I do not know, and a life that has filled the internet with warnings about her from various authorities.
I feel every bit of your pain - or rather I should say I have felt it. I rarely think about my daughter any more.
My heart goes out to you, Listener.
I had a sister like that -- lied constantly, stole things, took up with one worthless man after another. One of her BFs was sent to prison for murder, but most of the rest were just petty criminals.
Broke our Dad's heart. My mother did her best to stay in touch, which mainly involved sending her money to bail her out of one scrape after another.
She was raised in the same home/family as the rest of us, yet she was the only one who turned out like this.
Yes this is my biological daughter. The lie she told was serious enough for me o spend a hefty amount of cash on a polygraph to prove my innocence. I don't want to be anywhere near her under any circumstances.
You spent the money so that you could feel better. It didn't "prove" your innocence and clearly hasn't solved anything, plus you seem as or more angry than you were pre-test.
The arrest is small potatoes compared to writing off your unborn grandchildren forever.
OP keeps saying his daughter "lied" without any context as to what her motive might be or if she believes what she believes. Why this whole family isn't in therapy to sort this mess out I have no idea. I would feel sorry for the mom but it seems like she's cast herself in the helpless, passive spouse role.
OP's other threads shed more light on this family's dysfunction.
OP keeps saying his daughter "lied" without any context as to what her motive might be or if she believes what she believes. Why this whole family isn't in therapy to sort this mess out I have no idea. I would feel sorry for the mom but it seems like she's cast herself in the helpless, passive spouse role.
OP's other threads shed more light on this family's dysfunction.
Can you shed light on this family's dysfunction.
From the OP's posts on this thread, I'm guessing she accused him of sexual misconduct, so he took the lie detector test to prove his innocence.
You spent the money so that you could feel better. It didn't "prove" your innocence and clearly hasn't solved anything, plus you seem as or more angry than you were pre-test.
The arrest is small potatoes compared to writing off your unborn grandchildren forever.
Clearly the poster wants vindication and affirmation- not a solution to the issue in his marriage. The recent arrest helps with that and provides further ammunition to convincing his wife to side with him.
Maybe if he’s lucky the daughter and bf with really screw up and it will work out for him.
It's also not clear how taking a polygraph can prove someone ELSE was lying. That doesn't seem like proper police procedure to me.
The OP took the polygraph test to establish his own innocence. Nothing more. The test would have nothing to say about someone else lying or not lying.
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