Parent’s Article: “ Study: Grandparents Who Follow Outdated Parenting Advice May Unintentially Pose Risks to TheirGkids”

[saibot]

Originally Posted by 2mares

Right. And what the parents are doing today will be outdated by the time they have grandkids, and their kids will be scoffing and complaining about them not being up to date and putting the grandkids at risk.

Each generation needs to learn to hand over the reins graciously.

Doing so will certainly cut down on the "scoffing and complaining."

[2mares]

Originally Posted by saibot

Each generation needs to learn to hand over the reins graciously.

Doing so will certainly cut down on the "scoffing and complaining."

I think the point some of us were trying to make is that they pretty much do, with few exceptions, but hey nothing is 100%.
Seems there are extremes on both sides, on one side some grands push boundaries and interfere in childcare philosophies and on the other parents think their parents don't have any common sense and new current trends must be strictly adhered to.
Most of us are somewhere in the middle.
I recall a few things my mom and dad did with my kids that I didnt agree with and upset me and I recall them being a help and blessing, and I recall some things/ideas both mom and grandma and dad did to us when we were little that I cringe at, wonder how I'm still alive and would never do with my own kids. I think we should just not sweat the small stuff.

[springfieldva]

Originally Posted by saibot

Each generation needs to learn to hand over the reins graciously.

Doing so will certainly cut down on the "scoffing and complaining."

Oh, absolutely. I will definitely not try to grab the reins of parenting from my kids and their spouses. And I will defer to their judgement when it comes to any future grandchildren. I've raised my kids and it'll be their turn to raise their children.

I will say that I do hope that my kids have the good sense to keep their small children on a regular schedule and that they make the effort to help their children to become good sleepers in their own cribs from early on.

One of the things that made visits with grandparents so pleasant was that our kids had regular bedtimes and the grown ups always had some downtime in the evenings to relax, talk, sip some wine and watch non-kid shows on t.v.

[saibot]

Originally Posted by springfieldva

I will say that I do hope that my kids have the good sense to keep their small children on a regular schedule and that they make the effort to help their children to become good sleepers in their own cribs from early on.

I'm with you on that. This was very important to me, too.

[Prosze]

You have to review safety no matter who is in charge of watching children. My biggest worries are always other people's dogs, homes with pools, making sure medications are not in reach, stairs when they are little, inappropriate foods/choking hazards. Make sure hands are held in parking lots/crossing the street/around traffic (My youngest was a runner). Car seats you buy & install for the grandparents.