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Old 06-09-2008, 12:55 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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Spanking did not work on me one bit. My mom tried spanking with hand, bucket handles, spoons, switches, books etc. It really didn't phase me, I had a really high pain tolerance. I have been told I was a very good kid, but my mom had quite a temper. Oh, the neighbor who used to babysit me told me that she once had to spank me (for beating up her son who had hit my brother), she got out the belt and I chuckled and said "Hmm... I've never been spanked with a belt before".

My mom finally found out that the best way to punish me was to ground me. Boy was she harsh, if I even said one word in my defense she added a whole day of grounding. I generally negotiated my way out of it though once she calmed down.

We do not "spank" our child, but we do give him a little swat (not hard enough to hurt, but just to startle) if he commits a major offense. Luckily our son is very well behaved and we rarely have to punish him. We also watch him closely, so he doesn't get in trouble for a lot of things that other children get in trouble for when their parents neglect to watch them properly.
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Old 06-09-2008, 02:48 PM
 
Location: Camberville
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I don't remember this, but my mom is fond of telling the story of the one and only time she spanked me. She gave me a spanking (or, as she called it in Yiddish- puch en toucchas) and I didn't cry. I stood up, looked her in the eye, and told her I had no respect for her and walked out. I was about 3. Never happened again.

What I do remember was when my brother was spanked when he was about 3. After it was over, I told him to hit me in front of my mom... and he did. When my mom went to scold him, I simply informed her that it was a learned behavior and that if it was OK for her to spank him, why couldn't he take out his anger on me? Last time he was spanked as well.

Reasoning worked very well for my brother and I. Just telling us "no means no" did nothing- if my parents explained WHY they said no, we backed off. Typical INTJ kids, if you follow Myers-Briggs psychology.
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Old 06-09-2008, 04:01 PM
 
Location: Dreaming of South Dakota!
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I got spanked ALOT! my mother used to keep tabs on how many bad words i said while we were out and thats how many whacks you got, i just learned to say things when she was not around or really quietly, it never made me behave more just be more sneaky.
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Old 06-09-2008, 04:06 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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Sounds like my "mother." A very miserable person, she can't get out one sentence without complaining about something or degrading someone. I don't speak to her at all anymore....my kids don't even know she exists.
Your doing your children a favor, keeping them away from such a distructive influence, at least in my opinion. I don't understand why some people think beating a child into the ground both physicaly and mentally is the way to go but it does lifelong damage to a person.
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Old 06-09-2008, 06:51 PM
 
Location: Raleigh, NC
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I never was spanked but I sure got popped for things and YES it worked. Now my brothers were beat with the belt and NO it didn't work. If I ever have children I will never beat them but I sure will pop them.
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Old 06-09-2008, 07:30 PM
 
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Hey, I come from the 50s when a kid got "beat with the ironing cord"...which didn't work, so why did a parent continue the corporal punishment? If the kid continued, isn't it time to try a new punishment?

The teachers in those days were allowed to paddle, the woodshop teacher took pride in making the longest, thickest paddle in the school. I didn't like that girls were paddled by male teachers on the rump. NOT on the hands, or leg but on the buttocks! these teachers even bragged about "how the paddle" was designed and cut, with drilled holes in them to 'suck the meat thru' when on the upswing to get better speed! WTF?

This was NOT in a rural small town, it was in Michigan, in Pontiac & Detroit areas.
Anybody else get paddled, and when did they stop this practice?
Ouch! and lol @ the same time because I am familiar with this!
I was born in the late 70's and my parents still believed in spare the rod and spoil the child. I was spanked by dad and mom hit me with a belt (she stated it dated back to an injury and could not use her hand) lolz! And I had a choice "No TV for the rest of the day or 3 lashings with the belt. Needless to say I always chose the lashings across my bare bottom!
And I attended catochism and I remember still in the late 70's it was not uncommon for the nuns to give you a firm rap against the knuckles if you did not stay on task! As far as I am concerned I was always a good mannered child and was not so much afraid of my parents but rather the shame I got from the reprimands because I felt I was disappointing them. The same goes for church.
Personally I think there is nothing wrong with a spaniking on the bottom for extreme situations...i.e health/safety issues,i.e. running into traffic, not looking both ways, biting, hurting others. A warning should be given and it should be distinct but after 7 I think spankings are useless and time to go back to the drawing board!
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Old 06-09-2008, 07:45 PM
 
Location: in my house
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The man who raised me didn't spank, he hit with a thick leather belt, I hated him for it.
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Old 06-09-2008, 07:48 PM
 
Location: Manitoba
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I was spanked with a wooden spoon when i was younger, but when I reach age 10, I started to get Spanking fantasies.

For my future kids, I would only use spanking as a last resort if everything else fails.

I don't understand parents when they say to their kids: "Stop crying or you will get a spanking" A Spanking won't stop them from crying if they receive it.
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Old 06-09-2008, 08:17 PM
 
Location: Catonsville, MD
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I was paddled in 9th grade by a male teacher on my butt in front of the entire class. I am female. I was completely humiliated. This was for chewing gum in class. I do not remember any teacher's name from that school year, except his and to this day, I still am resentful. It happened in 1973 in Cody, Wyoming.

I do not spank my kids. I do not want them to resent me and I think that spanking generally does not work.
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Old 06-09-2008, 09:55 PM
 
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I don't remember this, but my mom is fond of telling the story of the one and only time she spanked me. She gave me a spanking (or, as she called it in Yiddish- puch en toucchas) and I didn't cry. I stood up, looked her in the eye, and told her I had no respect for her and walked out. I was about 3. Never happened again.

What I do remember was when my brother was spanked when he was about 3. After it was over, I told him to hit me in front of my mom... and he did. When my mom went to scold him, I simply informed her that it was a learned behavior and that if it was OK for her to spank him, why couldn't he take out his anger on me? Last time he was spanked as well.

Reasoning worked very well for my brother and I. Just telling us "no means no" did nothing- if my parents explained WHY they said no, we backed off. Typical INTJ kids, if you follow Myers-Briggs psychology.


ooooh you were quite a kid!
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