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Old 06-12-2008, 12:57 PM
 
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i am in desperate need of answers and help. i used to live in oregon well i got in a few troubles and my mom is very mad. now she sent me to asia and she has my greencard and passport im still 17 and i was dropped out of school and i was to go to school here but she never told me only said it when i came here she changed everything that we talked about. and now shes saying i can't go back in america even when im 18. please tell me if this is true, i mean can't i get my passport and greencard or can't i report her to the government?
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Old 06-12-2008, 12:59 PM
 
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You can go anywhere you want once you're 18. Before that, sorry, you're still a child and all decisions you made (short of manslaughter/murder), are basically invalid.
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Old 06-12-2008, 01:19 PM
 
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i am in desperate need of answers and help. i used to live in oregon well i got in a few troubles and my mom is very mad. now she sent me to asia and she has my greencard and passport im still 17 and i was dropped out of school and i was to go to school here but she never told me only said it when i came here she changed everything that we talked about. and now shes saying i can't go back in america even when im 18. please tell me if this is true, i mean can't i get my passport and greencard or can't i report her to the government?
Are you an American citizen? If so, contact the American Embassy in your country and explain your situation and they'll try to help. At 18 you make your own decisions and your mother can't say boo (unless you live at home rent free, drive a car your parents bought, and they pay for your schooling in which case you're pretty much a prisoner).
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Old 06-12-2008, 10:36 PM
 
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I am guessing you are a permanent resident, your mom "forced" you to return to your former Asian country and now you want back?

How did you leave the country without your passport and greencard?

Anyway, the passport, whatever country, and greencard is the property of the government. The passport being the property of what government issued it and the greencard the property of the US government.

Your mom can not legally withhold those documents from you no matter what age as those things were issued to you for you, not to your mom.

I would tell her those things and if she does not budge, then contact USCIS and tell them that someone is in possession of your green card and will not give it to you.

But this is all a mute point because once again, how did you leave the country without your passport and greencard? I can see without the green card kind of, but I am positive they would ask to see a visa of some sort to check out your status in this country. The passport is a given.
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Old 03-20-2011, 11:35 AM
 
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Default 18 year old son

he thinks he has no rules now and does not have to listen to what i have to say and if he does not like it he calls his dad. And yes he is a step-son and his dad says he is 18 now and can do what ever he wants to.This is his only kid, but he lives under are roof and i say that he does have rules along he is here but other ones say no on that. It is very upsetting, i done had 3 eighteen year lod and they was girls and they gave me some **** but not like this.So how can i make t5hem understand there is rules he has to fellow while he is under my roof.
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Old 03-20-2011, 02:37 PM
 
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(Found elsewhere on the Web. Wish I could cliam it as my own...)

(Also, I smell a troll in this thread...)

Advice on dealing with a disobedient teenager:

This is really very simple.

You tell him that in 1 month, you're both going on a "father/son vacation" to "Asia". How fun! And, that you're both going to take in the sights and local culture. That's the story you tell him.

Then, you take yourself and him to get your pictures taken for your passports.

Then, after you get your passports, you buy two tickets to "Asia" - - a round trip ticket for you, and a one-way ticket for him.

You both fly to "Asia".

You get into a cab from the airport and go to thehotel where you've previously made separate room arrangements.

You get to the hotel and get to your rooms, but do not unpack your bags!

After getting him settled into his room, you take his passport without letting him see you. You then tell him you're going to the gift shop for a magazine.

However, the reality is that you're going to the front desk with an envelope. In the envelope is two hundred dollars in local money, and your note to him - -

"Dear Sonnyboy: So, you think you're old enough to dislike me and Mom, and to give us continual trouble? Then you're old enough to take care of yourself. I hope you like your new home and country. New languages are fun to learn, aren't they? Here's $200.00 to get you started in life. Don't waste it. Love, Dad."

Have the hotel clerk deliver the envelope to his room.

Then, you turn on your heels, take your bags out of the hotel, hail a cab, and get back to the airport. Fly home.

Let "Asia" take care of him.
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Old 03-20-2011, 02:50 PM
 
Location: Unknown. Where am I? Am I lost?
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(Found elsewhere on the Web. Wish I could cliam it as my own...)

(Also, I smell a troll in this thread...)

Advice on dealing with a disobedient teenager:

This is really very simple.

You tell him that in 1 month, you're both going on a "father/son vacation" to "Asia". How fun! And, that you're both going to take in the sights and local culture. That's the story you tell him.

Then, you take yourself and him to get your pictures taken for your passports.

Then, after you get your passports, you buy two tickets to "Asia" - - a round trip ticket for you, and a one-way ticket for him.

You both fly to "Asia".

You get into a cab from the airport and go to thehotel where you've previously made separate room arrangements.

You get to the hotel and get to your rooms, but do not unpack your bags!

After getting him settled into his room, you take his passport without letting him see you. You then tell him you're going to the gift shop for a magazine.

However, the reality is that you're going to the front desk with an envelope. In the envelope is two hundred dollars in local money, and your note to him - -

"Dear Sonnyboy: So, you think you're old enough to dislike me and Mom, and to give us continual trouble? Then you're old enough to take care of yourself. I hope you like your new home and country. New languages are fun to learn, aren't they? Here's $200.00 to get you started in life. Don't waste it. Love, Dad."

Have the hotel clerk deliver the envelope to his room.

Then, you turn on your heels, take your bags out of the hotel, hail a cab, and get back to the airport. Fly home.

Let "Asia" take care of him.
If someone did that to me I would literally panic to death.
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Old 03-20-2011, 03:04 PM
 
Location: Rogers, Arkansas
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An 18 year old is (hopefully) mature enough to make his/her own decisions.
An 18 year old is also old enough to move out.

So, easy solution: if he wants to make his own decisions, he makes them in his own home.;
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Old 03-20-2011, 03:27 PM
 
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(Also, I smell a troll in this thread...)
This thread is from 2008!
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Old 03-20-2011, 10:39 PM
 
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Post #5 is a new case.
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