My mom really dislikes me.

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Originally Posted by lilamx

I'm 21. Wow, I really never looked at it that way. I never imagined being a single mom would stress her out, she's raised us by herself our whole lives so I never saw it as odd. Even when my dad was alive he lived in another country so she was always like a single parent. But I don't understand why she doesn't treat us all the same. For example when we get into an argument, she'll never listen to my side of things, she'll automatically think I'm wrong and get angry at me. I wish she could just listen. But you guys make some good points and I guess I should be acting in a more adult manner. It's just that sometimes it's so difficult to avoid getting into fights because my brothers really bug me!!

I know, as a parent myself, dealing with fights is not part of the job we enjoy. Sometimes it is better to just END the fight and that sometimes means putting out the fire. You might see it as she is mad at you and not listening, but if you take a minute, think about the noise, the frustration, and the sadness that fight is causing your mother (who with six kids most likely never has a moment of peice and quiet for herself). She just wants to put out that fire, and at 21 you are too old to be setting fires for her to put out... sorry, but you should be old enough to not cause problems for her... she must be exhausted as it is, added fights and frustrations are not what she needs, especially from an ADULT child.