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Old 06-21-2008, 08:15 PM
 
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I have a question for someone in the know! We recently moved to South Carolina from NY. We have a 17 year old son (whom we adopted when he was 16) who already has two children. He quit school and ran away before we moved, and is threatening to do so again. He wants to go stay with a family back in NY who contributes to the delinquency of minors as a way of life!

I have all but given up on trying to get him to NOT go, because he will run away again when it suits him. My question is, what liability will we have if he does, now that we are residents of South Carolina? In NY, we are responsible for him until he is 21. He is leaving home voluntarily, even against our wishes. I have heard that it is 18 in South Carolina, but does that hold true if he goes to another state?

Is it possible to emancipate him? If so, would NY honor it? He absolutely cannot support himself, and would be living with another family. ANY help would be appreciated.
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Old 06-22-2008, 12:15 AM
 
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maybe this will help?
Emancipation of Minors - All US States

So sorry for your situation....bless you for adopting him and at least trying to help. It might be best to look into emancipation. I guess I think of it an another form of 'tough love'. You need to do what you feel is best for your sanity and that of your family.
Maybe part of that saying is true....if you love someone, let them go....
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Old 06-23-2008, 06:15 AM
 
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Thanks so much!
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Old 06-24-2008, 03:36 AM
 
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Is he trying to run away to see his kids? Or has he abandoned them?
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Old 06-27-2008, 08:14 AM
 
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He does see his daughter, but his running away is not based on his children. He wants to be able to have the freedoms of an adult without preparing himself for being an adult. (Dropping out of school, etc.) He started this behavior while we were still in NY and near his children.
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Old 04-18-2009, 03:08 PM
 
Location: NE Oklahoma
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you guys are stupid, why dont you look at this situation thorough his eyes.
Because this is the PARENTING forum ava...not the The Forum For Teenage Complainers To Air Their Gripes. If that is what you are looking for then go to their forum. We discuss adult topics and give The Adults (usually parents) advice on how to deal with their children.
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Old 04-18-2009, 08:43 PM
 
Location: Macao
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I have a question for someone in the know! We recently moved to South Carolina from NY. We have a 17 year old son (whom we adopted when he was 16) who already has two children. He quit school and ran away before we moved, and is threatening to do so again. He wants to go stay with a family back in NY who contributes to the delinquency of minors as a way of life!

I have all but given up on trying to get him to NOT go, because he will run away again when it suits him. My question is, what liability will we have if he does, now that we are residents of South Carolina? In NY, we are responsible for him until he is 21. He is leaving home voluntarily, even against our wishes. I have heard that it is 18 in South Carolina, but does that hold true if he goes to another state?

Is it possible to emancipate him? If so, would NY honor it? He absolutely cannot support himself, and would be living with another family. ANY help would be appreciated.
It sounds like he just wants to live in NY and not move to SC? I'm guessing he is going to be a Senior in High School, and you wanted to change schools and communities on him just before his final year?

As a kid who had parents that moved around OFTEN...leaving school systems just before your senior and final year pretty much SUCKS. If this is the case in his situation, I don't blame him one bit for wanting to stay there and graduate with his friends for the final and best year of High School.

Couldn't you have waited one final year for your kid before making a major move like that?
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Old 04-18-2009, 09:37 PM
 
Location: NE Oklahoma
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We are moving to a different community three weeks before the school year is out. No, we can't wait. Hubby will be driving 90 miles each way if we don't move. We can't afford that. Our daughters are upset..one is in 6th grade and the other is in 10th. Sometimes you just can't help it.
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Old 08-28-2013, 05:58 PM
 
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hi, im 16 years old and I live in south Carolina. me and my mother don't have the best relationship and she hits me often. is there a way that I can become emancipated if there is someone who is willing to take care of me (which there is)
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Old 08-28-2013, 06:01 PM
 
Location: hunt valley
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hi, im 16 years old and I live in south Carolina. me and my mother don't have the best relationship and she hits me often. is there a way that I can become emancipated if there is someone who is willing to take care of me (which there is)
No likely no. You would have to be considered a mature minor to be emancipated. You can see if your mother will sign over guardianship to you though.
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