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Well...did you do anything in regard to a change in visitation when he got that DUI? If not, the courts may say you didn't think it was a big deal then, so why is it a big deal now? If the child is being physically abused have any police reports been made to back up that allegation? Was your daughter in his care when he failed those drug screens?
I hate to be so negative but I have gone through the exact same situation (I wanted to move, erratic visitation, drug use on his part). I'm just trying to prepare you for what the judge might say.
He just got his DUI right when this all started when I filled in court to move I can not prove that he had my daughter and was using drugs all I know is that he was court ordered to take a drug test and it came back inconclusive 3 times which was basically a failed screen and was ordered to attend meetings as far as the DUI I am going to present this in court since it just happened So when this happened to you what was the outcome did you get to move supervised visitation or what was the judges order?
We ended up not having to go before the judge, we worked it out in mediation. I moved (6 hours away) and it was MY responsibility to take my son to my ex's house every other wkend so he could have visitation. Most of the time he would drive a couple of hours to meet me, but he didn't HAVE to. I have been very lucky, 2 months ago he lost his job and he moved to the town my son and I now live in.
I just want to add that judges do NOT look kindly on a parent moving a child away from the other parent. If he asks for it he could end up with custody and YOU with visitation.
Well I am glad to hear that it worked out for you I told my X that I would be responsible for making sure that my daughter was in ohio to see him for the whole summer I did not even ask him to be involved in that but he still refused I guess I will have to wait until the judge makes her decision on the matter Thank you for your advice I am just frustrated
How could someone get custody who is a abused alcohol and drugs I will not move if I would lose custody of my daughter it is not worth it she is everything to me
I doubt very much that any court will let you remove your daughter to a place where her father does not have reasonable, regular access. Even if they did, you shouldn't. I do not know the people involved but I do know that, no matter how much parents dislike one another, kids love and need them both. In your daughter's best interest you should be doing everything you can to make certain that she has a good relationship with her father. Not for his sake. For hers. Like it or not, a girl's belief in herself as a lovable and worthwhile woman is shaped by her relationship with her dad. When she is grown and off to college you can move. Until then you owe it to her to help her become the complete and healthy human being that she was meant to be. Just because someone isn't a good husband doesn't mean he can't be a good father. Help him be one so that you daughter will have the great advantage of having had a good father.
Tough for the OP to hear, but boy is that good advice. A fathers relationship with a girl is so much more important than many today feel it is.
I doubt very much that any court will let you remove your daughter to a place where her father does not have reasonable, regular access. Even if they did, you shouldn't. I do not know the people involved but I do know that, no matter how much parents dislike one another, kids love and need them both. In your daughter's best interest you should be doing everything you can to make certain that she has a good relationship with her father. Not for his sake. For hers. Like it or not, a girl's belief in herself as a lovable and worthwhile woman is shaped by her relationship with her dad. When she is grown and off to college you can move. Until then you owe it to her to help her become the complete and healthy human being that she was meant to be. Just because someone isn't a good husband doesn't mean he can't be a good father. Help him be one so that you daughter will have the great advantage of having had a good father.
BRAVO, BRAVO, BRAVO - I HOPE THIS MOM READS THIS AND TAKES IT TO HEART - YOU HAVE HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD! There is so much truth in this post that it ought to be on a billboard or something. OP, are you listening???
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