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Old 07-17-2008, 09:18 AM
 
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Hi,
my 27 mth old DD have been waking up every night crying. she stands up in her crib and wanting to get out and go to my room and sleep........
i don't know what to do and anyone else experience this?
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Old 07-17-2008, 09:28 AM
 
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Don't give in - it's going to take awhile - but if you just go in and put her back down with an I love you and then leave - she will eventually stop - but you have to be ready for the long haul.
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Old 07-17-2008, 09:33 AM
 
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Yes. She is trying to learn how to comfort herself and you need to let her find her own way. Both of my kids went through this. I would get up, check to see everything was okay (diaper and crib clean) give a little snuggle and lay them back down. It took a couple of months of this every night, but they both eventually learned how to go back to sleep themselves.
My sister made the mistake of bringing hers into her room and it took 3 years to break the habit.

As long as she's physically active enough during the day, this should eventually peter out and she'll go back to sleeping through the night.

Good Luck!
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Old 07-17-2008, 09:36 AM
 
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Yes, I have with my 3-year-old. I love the Bears is correct. You do have to be ready for a bit of a battle, especially if you've been taking her into your bed. She may be having nightmares, but she does need to learn to go back to sleep in her own bed. So, go in, make sure she's fine, reassure her, and then leave. You have to make it clear the rules have changed. She's going to try and try, but each time you give in will undo everything you have done. Be strong! I'm currently fighting a battle with my 14-month-old to get her to fall asleep on her own. Thus far, I've rocked her to sleep. We make our own adorable monsters. Good luck!
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Old 07-17-2008, 09:40 AM
 
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I always say kids are like the dinosaurs in Jurassic Park - they keep hitting the fence looking for the weak point. And at 2 am when you're sleepy - they'll find it every time! Don't feel too bad about the crying - we have 4 kids and we let them cry it out plenty of nights (usually with me on the outside and my hubby holding me back!) All of mine are fine! Now I can't wake the teenagers up!
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Old 07-17-2008, 09:51 AM
 
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Very normal.

This may sound a little random, but do you maybe think she is getting too big for the crib & when she moves around at night, she is bumping into the sides, etc thus waking herself up?

Other than that, by 27 months, it's just tough love...she's gotta figure out how to fall asleep on her own.

Little ones go through periods like this several times through their toddler years. Many different reasons.

As a parent, you know the difference b/w when she is in pain or hurt or when she is just frustrated.

My brother & SIL brought their #1 into their room & it took a good 2 years to break that habit. For #2, that poor little guy just cries & figures it out

For ours, we just let them cry. At times, we go in & comfort them. No talking. Just a few seconds & some cuddling to make them feel secure.

It stinks b/c it is always in the middle of the night
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Old 07-17-2008, 11:22 AM
 
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yes i did experience this just about 2 months ago. my son sleepsvery well and through the night, but for about a week or 2 he was crying every night about 2-3 am. as soon as i put him in our bed (just so i could get some sleep) he fell right to sleep.
luckily i didnt last long. just phases kids go through.
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Old 07-17-2008, 05:06 PM
 
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I would go in and make sure they were okay, then comfort them, maybe rub their back or belly, talk softly to them, just to settle them down...then leave the room. Don't bring them to your bed, that's a huge mistake. The child may be have nightmares (as mentioned earlier). They may be thirsty, could be too hot or too cold, sometimes a soft noise (sound systems with a variety of noises) would be enough to soothe them back to sleep, even a small fan-if it's hot. I always had nightlights in the rooms, but that can create shadows (which still scare me sometimes to this day), that can be of comfort. Sometimes I would rock with them, but I didn't want that to become habit either, so that was seldom, usually when they were sick. You have to be consistent at that age - both parents. It's hard - real hard to listen to them cry, but it usually doesn't last long. There were times, when I would leave the bedroom door open, and lay on the floor in the hall, so he could see me, he would settle down, and eventually I would sneak off to bed. I (we) have two boys 17 and 15, we've been there, and believe me, "your gonna miss this" (title song from Trace Adkins). Good Luck
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Old 07-17-2008, 09:14 PM
 
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We are/were co-sleepers. At 1.5 years, we moved and our son had his own room. I got a crib and had him use it, but he would wake up crying, too. So I got him a toddlers bed and put it next to my side of the bed and he slept through the night. It worked great! My oldest is five now and sleeps in his own bed in his own room. I know co-sleeping isn't for everyone, but I thought I would share my experience for those that are.
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Old 07-18-2008, 03:53 PM
 
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I am also a co-sleeper. Co-sleeping doesn't have to be seen as a "bad habit" if it is a choice that you have made. I am opposed to "cry-it-out" and prefer to comfort my child. I find it to be easier, both physically and emotionally, and I think that my instincts tell me it's the right thing to do for a reason.

My daughter is 26 months. At 2 years we started moving her into a twin bed in her own room. She now sleeps in her bed all night, but she usually wakes at about 2 or 3am and calls for me, and I go in and sleep the rest of the night in her bed with her. She likes to be cuddled in the night, and I understand that, because I do too!
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