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09-21-2008, 02:55 PM
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Birthday Party Etiquette?
My daughter is in 1st grade and has already been invited to 3 bday parties, the school year has just begun!
Last year we were only invited to 1 party and we attended it. This year so far, we have not been able to attend the parties, a lot going on!
My question is; when your child is invited to a party by a child that you do not know, and you do not know their parents, are "we" still obligated to purchase a gift for the child?
My daughter really wants to get something for one that is coming up and I don't think it is necessary, but not sure what others do in the same situation?
Thanks for the input!
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09-21-2008, 03:12 PM
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If you go to the party (wether or not you know their parents) than you purchase a gift. If you dont really know the child and you dont go to the party than i would not buy a gift.
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09-21-2008, 03:22 PM
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If your child goes you buy a gift.
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09-21-2008, 04:02 PM
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I would boycott parties altogether. Really, what is the need for a birthday party every year? And why do people invite people they don't even know? If the children are good friends, chances are the parents would know each other, but even then it is over done.
Parties are costly, and when every child has one, it becomes a competition of who can give the greatest party. Who can get the most guests and the most gifts.
The only 'party' my daughter had was when she invited 3 friends to a pizza place with games. They had a great time and she was happy. The next party she has is sweet 16, then graduation, and if she plays her cards right, her dad and I will spring for a wedding reception (kidding, we will anyway).
I simply cannot afford gifts for every child who wants one. Everybody has birthdays.
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09-21-2008, 04:27 PM
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no go no gift
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09-21-2008, 04:30 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by zebrashoes
If you go to the party (wether or not you know their parents) than you purchase a gift. If you dont really know the child and you dont go to the party than i would not buy a gift.
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Thanks-I of course always purchase a gift if we go to the party. I suppose I should have clarified myself... just wondering what others do if their child does NOT attend? |
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09-21-2008, 04:36 PM
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I wouldn't if she doesn't attend, with the exceptions being a best friend. Then I would try to schedule a time for that friend to come over to have a small special play session with your daughter, since she would be missing the party. Do you know why she wants to buy a present for the one coming up? Is it a case of being a really close school friend, or one of child politics?
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09-21-2008, 04:50 PM
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If your daughter is insisting on wanting to purchase a gift, even if she is not going to party than maybe opt for like a card or a gift card with 10 bucks on it. But to answer you question- if you dont go to the party you are definatly not obligated to buy anything.
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09-21-2008, 07:31 PM
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If my kid didn't go I probably wouldn't buy a present unless I was really good friends with the family and could make it to the party. If it is really important to your daughter, I'd have her make a card and maybe add a sheet of stickers or something in it.
Party politics are so hard!
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09-21-2008, 08:27 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by 2girlsand2boys
Party politics are so hard!
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