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I have a question. My husband and I are going throught the same thing...Mom bad mouths my husband, tells the kids he doesn't love them and he left them. She also tells that he cheated on her with me (total lie) and has involved her church in the drama. She has her church convinced that my husband left her without anything, no money, no home etc. and that I am a homewrecker. The kids come every other weekend and when they go home they lie to their mother about the weekends events. Everything down to me not letting them use the phone to call her, me taking the toys that belong to them, me yelling at them, not letting them eat anything except PB& J and not cooking at all. None of this is true. Yet, when they are here, they dress like me, tell me how much they love me, want me to do their makeup and hair....I can't help but feel betrayed. They are 11 and 5. Any suggestions???
I have a question. My husband and I are going throught the same thing...Mom bad mouths my husband, tells the kids he doesn't love them and he left them. She also tells that he cheated on her with me (total lie) and has involved her church in the drama. She has her church convinced that my husband left her without anything, no money, no home etc. and that I am a homewrecker. The kids come every other weekend and when they go home they lie to their mother about the weekends events. Everything down to me not letting them use the phone to call her, me taking the toys that belong to them, me yelling at them, not letting them eat anything except PB& J and not cooking at all. None of this is true. Yet, when they are here, they dress like me, tell me how much they love me, want me to do their makeup and hair....I can't help but feel betrayed. They are 11 and 5. Any suggestions???
Hi stacyadams, Being this thread was started over 2 yrs ago, maybe it would be better that you start a new thread w/ your post.
this is pretty complicated, but I could use some wise words other than "give the kids space, they'll come around some-day". It's gotten to the point where his 2 girls, age 12 & 16 won't even see him on his designated weekends. Now they're finding reasons not to see him on the holidays. We don't know how to react. Their mother refuses to let go her hatred of him for divorcing him over 6 years ago.
I'm so frustrated....I don't know what to do but want to do something!
Ok what Im getting is your husbands children from a previous marriage..The kids dont want to see him..the ex-wife is mad because he divorced her 6 years ago..
I say keep out..the kids are old enough to decide by themselves
Just never put down their mom..not to the kids or him
Their kids is between them..
They are telling her stuff like you won't let them use the phone because she is making them feel like if they have fun at your house, they are somehow betraying HER. She has them all screwed up. Please try to remember they are kids who are torn between two families and they don't want to choose sides. They probably have a great time with you but cant let her know that.
That is why they are telling her they are miserable there. They are trying to make her feel better.
Don't take it personally. It's not about you, It's about THEM.
They should be in counseling to help them through their feelings at this time. Otherwise it can negatively affect them forever.
I have a question. My husband and I are going throught the same thing...Mom bad mouths my husband, tells the kids he doesn't love them and he left them. She also tells that he cheated on her with me (total lie) and has involved her church in the drama. She has her church convinced that my husband left her without anything, no money, no home etc. and that I am a homewrecker. The kids come every other weekend and when they go home they lie to their mother about the weekends events. Everything down to me not letting them use the phone to call her, me taking the toys that belong to them, me yelling at them, not letting them eat anything except PB& J and not cooking at all. None of this is true. Yet, when they are here, they dress like me, tell me how much they love me, want me to do their makeup and hair....I can't help but feel betrayed. They are 11 and 5. Any suggestions???
Why don't you have your husband sue for joint custody, because that custody agreement seems very unfair.
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