Gotta love Newsweek sometimes...
If you are going to allow your children to move back home, rules & expectations need to be established just as they were when they were minors.
I lived at home during graduate school. It was NOT a free ride. There were rules..strict rules on everything from attitude to helping with cooking of meals. I never for a moment expected my parents to foot my bill. I lived within my means. If I did not, my parents were not there to bail me out.
They also had a time limit. One year.
As a married mom with a child, we moved in with our parents during a move. It was about 1 1/2 months. Again, my parents had no issues with setting down basic rules & my dh & I had no problems with respecting them.
If parents are going to let their children move back in & ALLOW their children to take over, that was their decision. I have a family member who had done that & it's pathetic on both sides. Angers me to no end b/c no one is taking responsibility. Pathetic.
There are exceptations to everything & some families are truly facing extreme financial hardships. Well, that's not up to mom & dad to perfectly fix. It's not possible. There can still be boundaries & expectations even under this sort of distress.
Parents who still treat their grown children like 5 yr olds & pay for everything they want & allow their grown children to bring in chaos to their home...I can only assume that this has always been allowed.
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