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Old 03-03-2007, 11:20 AM
 
Location: Old Town Alexandria
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Just a general poll. Regarding someone --yes, 33 years old and still lives at home with his parents.
(Exception if the parent is ill, home-bound) It just seems regressive. What does everyone else think?
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Old 03-03-2007, 11:42 AM
 
Location: Deep In The Heat Of Texas
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I believe the parents are enabling the adult child to be dependent and not self-sufficient. My children are 33 and 30 and there would be no way either would still be living at home under normal circumstances. They wouldn't want it and neither would I.

Even if the son "pays his way", my thought is that it isn't normal for him to want to live with his parents or his parents to want him to live there. It just doesn't make any sense to me.
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Old 03-03-2007, 11:44 AM
 
Location: Old Town Alexandria
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I agree with that post. Hope to hear from others re: this, thanks!


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Old 03-03-2007, 12:06 PM
 
Location: Burlington, VT
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It depends. Does he have a job? Has he just been through a divorce? If everyone is getting along, what's the problem?
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Old 03-03-2007, 12:12 PM
 
Location: Old Town Alexandria
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It just seems like an excuse. Of course my Mom died when I was 20 so maybe I feel someone like that is too old to be a Mama's boy.
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Old 03-03-2007, 12:26 PM
 
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee
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Ugh. A mama's boy. Don't even get me started. I have a few things to say about men that are in their 30s and may not live with their parents but spend every waking moment at Mama's, often sleeping over or taking her out on "dates," like to the drive-in.
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Old 03-03-2007, 12:49 PM
 
Location: Northeast
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Just a general poll. Regarding someone --yes, 33 years old and still lives at home with his parents.
(Exception if the parent is ill, home-bound) It just seems regressive. What does everyone else think?
I think it's ridiculous, but I also consider the area.

It's much more common in the high-priced areas like Long Island because MOST people can't afford to live there. So, some folks rent Mom's basement until marriage.

It's a little "losery" IMO, but I can understand it.

I personally want my kids to stick around until they at least have a 6 figure bank account. Then I'll start nudging them out the door

-TT
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Old 03-03-2007, 12:51 PM
 
Location: Tucson, AZ
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Well, for the time being, I am one. Within a three day span last year, I separated from my now ex-wife then donated a kidney to my mother. Part of the reason I moved back in was because my recovery was much quicker than hers, so I was able to help my dad out with some things around the house. By then, we all figured that since I am leaving the area anyway, I shouldn't waste my money on the outrageous rents in NJ.

It's not my favorite arrangement, no doubt about it, but I'm not ashamed of it, either, and I don't think that I'm being a "mama's boy". It is what it is, and soon it'll be in the past.
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Old 03-03-2007, 12:57 PM
 
Location: Northeast
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Well, for the time being, I am one. Within a three day span last year, I separated from my now ex-wife then donated a kidney to my mother. Part of the reason I moved back in was because my recovery was much quicker than hers, so I was able to help my dad out with some things around the house. By then, we all figured that since I am leaving the area anyway, I shouldn't waste my money on the outrageous rents in NJ.

It's not my favorite arrangement, no doubt about it, but I'm not ashamed of it, either, and I don't think that I'm being a "mama's boy". It is what it is, and soon it'll be in the past.
Well MB I would say your situation would be filed under "extenuating circumstances", to say the least. I think SH was talking about the 35 year old adolescents who can't seem to grow up. You know the type. They still spend all night in the bar, zero career ambition, etc.

Giving up a kidney to mom earns a HUGE pass In fact, given the possible complications that can arise months later, you're probably right where you should be.

-TT
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Old 03-03-2007, 01:06 PM
 
Location: Tucson, AZ
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Well MB I would say your situation would be filed under "extenuating circumstances", to say the least. I think SH was talking about the 35 year old adolescents who can't seem to grow up. You know the type. They still spend all night in the bar, zero career ambition, etc.

Giving up a kidney to mom earns a HUGE pass In fact, given the possible complications that can arise months later, you're probably right where you should be.

-TT
Thanks, Yap. I just wanted to point out that not every such situation is necessarily what meets the eye However, I do agree that someone my age should only be back home under unusual circumstances. I remember when I got my first apartment, and how awesome that felt. Paying the bills sucked, but there was such a novelty to being able to come and go as I pleased, cleaning however often (or when I was a young slob, as little) as I wanted, if I wanted to eat junk food for dinner no one was there to give me grief- all those little things were such a rush. I couldn't imagine any young adult NOT wanting that independence.
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