Don't stop me from spanking a child! (legal, punishment, support)

[mental_complex]

I'm a firm believer of spanking children ( There's a difference between spankings and child abuse) . Do you see spanking as a valuable parental tool, and why?

[Huckleberry3911948]

thank you thank you for your post. if you whoopem at 8 you dont have to shoot them at 18. conflict deescalation reinforces bad behavior. we are stone blind to this fact. 40 years of stumbling in the dark, the harvest is hideous. im ready to move on how bout you.

[mental_complex]

Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948

thank you thank you for your post. if you whoopem at 8 you dont have to shoot them at 18. conflict deescalation reinforces bad behavior. we are stone blind to this fact. 40 years of stumbling in the dark, the harvest is hideous. im ready to move on how bout you.

I'm with you on this one

[Huckleberry3911948]

question are you really in el salvador, do you speak spanish?
doesn't everybody spank their kids there? does issue of abuse even come up?

[mental_complex]

Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948

question are you really in el salvador, do you speak spanish?
doesn't everybody spank their kids there? does issue of abuse even come up?

I'm American, living in El Salvador. No, I don't speak much Spanish. Lol, I understand how it feels to work and try to learn another language (America's Illegals). Thank god, I'm not here for that much longer. A friend of mines says spanking is tolerated here. The government has enough problems of their own than to worry about who's being spanked.

[steelstress]

As I was growing up earning my spankings, they hepled me to gauge the severity of my bad behavior. So I stopped playing with matches in the garage, and running across the street without looking first. Worked for me.

If I had kids, I'd do it.

[charolastra00]

My mom spanked my brother once (and me never) when I was about 4 and he was almost 3. I looked at my mom and asked her if when I don't like what she does, if I could hit her. She never spanked again.

So no, I think it's setting a very poor example for your children on conflict resolution and only teaches your children not to respect you.

[djacques]

Unspanked kids are usually brats, or worse. Controlled spanking as a punishment for a specific misbehavior is absolutely fine.

[mental_complex]

Originally Posted by charolastra00

My mom spanked my brother once (and me never) when I was about 4 and he was almost 3. I looked at my mom and asked her if when I don't like what she does, if I could hit her. She never spanked again.

So no, I think it's setting a very poor example for your children on conflict resolution and only teaches your children not to respect you.

There's a role for a parent. One of those roles is to teach your child the difference between an adult and a child, not cave in to a 4 year old. The child should fear and respect the parent, not be treated as a equal.

My mom spanked me and I respect her very much. I was raised in a rough area and could've easily ended up in prison like many of the people I grew up with, but she loved me too much to let that happen.

[sun queen]

I agree that there is a difference b/t spanking and abuse. The problem is that the laws of many states do not recognize that difference. When I grew up it was legal to do whatever u thought was necessary to rear ur kids. My parents thought is was absolutely necessary to give "woopins" as often as they saw fit. I a used to say non of us ever did drugs or went to jail, until one of us "spanked" not abused our kid and was subsequently arrested and convicted of felony child abuse. At the trial the Court remarked "u people had better find another way of discipline other than laying ur hands on a child." Up until that time I thought it was okay to spank, but spanking may cost u more than u can pay and ultimately hurt ur kids in a way u never intended. If u r convicted of a felony, it is attached to every job application u fill our for the rest of your life. Spanking ur kid may mean u will not be able to financially support them as well as u would have if u had not spanked them. I caution all "believers" of spanking: be aware of the law and the societies expectations in ur local area.